October 28, 2009

God Rest Her Soul

Update: Tyler White found guilty of killing Amy Meyer White on 10-3-2011

It's hard to think of an event more sad than the death of Amy Meyer White, killed by her estranged husband out on county road 100 South outside of Bluffton. Accidents are one thing, but murder... double murder since she was pregnant.... is another.

Tyler White played varsity basketball for Bluffton on the 1999-2000 team. Amy (Meyer) White played for South Adams, scoring over 1,000 points in her career and going on to play in college and coach, God rest her soul.

Update: Pulled from the comments...

USF players honor slain assistant coach

In honor of her life and dedication to sports, the USF Cougars gave Meyer's old uniform and five shooting shirts to the Meyer family. It was followed by a moment of silence.

"Amy was such a great person. She always had this kind of an infectious smile and laugh. And she always had a positive attitude and always worked hard. You know, we just wanted to tell her family how much we thought of Amy and let them know, you know, we're still thinking of them," said head coach Gary Andrews.

Meyer's grandfather Jack Meyer couldn't contain his emotions as he received the shirts on behalf of his family.

"It's hard to put it into words. But when she went to school here, it was sort of like a family," said Meyer. "It's just great to see them do this."

The Meyer family has established a Scholarship in Meyer's memory. The Amy Meyer Memorial Scholarship Fund will be given to a graduating female athlete from South Adams High School.

Nice.

199 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your innocent until proven quilty. This is a hard time for both families, friends, etc. It's a tragic event. I wish it had never happened. I support both families and will continue to throughout this time.

Anonymous said...

Hey, anonymous it is hard to be innocent when you confessed to something you have done. The last time I looked being guilty, and confessing to what you have done are completly different. Amy, rest in peace!

Anonymous said...

It doesn't matter if he is found guilty or not, she didn't deserve to die. And he didn't have a right to play God. Rest in Peace, Amy. Her family and son are in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

I don't like this anymore than you do. I know Tyler admited to being the shooter. That is clear. What was not clear was the reason. She did not deserve to die. This is absolutley horiable and please support both familes. Nobody asked for this. Below is a news artical.

Wells husband says gun pulled on him
Holly AbramsThe Journal GazetteAdvertisement

A Bluffton man charged in the shooting death of his wife told police she pointed a gun at him first during an argument over visitation with their son.


Tyler White appeared Wednesday in Wells Circuit Court, where a not guilty plea was entered on his behalf. White, 27, is formally charged with murder and was being held without bail in the Wells County Jail.


Deputies were called just after 9 a.m. Tuesday to 649 E. County Road 100 S. in Bluffton. Police found Amy White, 28, lying on the floor of the home’s two-car garage, suffering from two gunshot wounds to her chest.


She was taken by ambulance to Bluffton Regional Medical Center, where she died about an hour later.


Amy White had come to her in-law’s home to pick up her toddler son, Max. When Tyler White asked for 30 more minutes to visit with the boy, Amy White refused, Tyler White told detectives in a deputy’s report. His wife pointed a gun at him as the couple argued over who could have their son longer for a visit, according to the report.


Tyler White got down on his knees in the garage and told his wife to put the gun down, he told detectives. He then took a gun from the waistband of his pants and fired it at his wife, he said.


When deputies arrived, they found two handguns on the garage floor and Tyler White kneeling over his wife. Their 16 1/2 -month-old son was nearby, according to the report.


Wells County Coroner Kent Gilbert said an autopsy revealed Amy White had been shot to death. But Gilbert declined to comment Wednesday on a manner of death until he had reviewed the autopsy findings further. Her death has not yet been ruled a homicide.


Wells County Sheriff Robert Frantz said the couple had been going through a divorce.


A 1999 graduate of South Adams High School, Amy White, whose maiden name was Meyer, had been an assistant coach for the girls softball team in 2002 and a junior varsity softball coach in 2003 and 2004, said South Adams Schools Superintendent Cathy Egolf. Most recently, Amy White had been assistant cross country coach at the high school.


She was also an assistant women’s basketball coach at the University of Saint Francis.


After high school, Amy Meyer played basketball at Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne, followed by Saint Francis.


A trial date for Tyler White has been set for April.


habrams@jg.net

Dan said...

Indeed, both families and the little child especially need our prayers and support. However unlikely the explanation seems, it will be for a jury to decide.

Anonymous said...

YEE WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE...PEOPLE WHO DONOT KNOW THE COUPLE OR CIRCUSTANCES OF THE SITUATION NEED TO THINK LONG AND HARD BEFORE CASTING JUDGEMENT.. EMPATHY FOR ALL INVOLVED NEEDS TO HAPPEN...IT IS A SAD TIME FOR ALL

Anonymous said...

The truth will come out and Tyler will get what he deserves. Anyone that believes his story must be a complete IDIOT! Self defense...ha! Why would he shoot her twice in the chest and then her cell phone if it was self defense....hmmmm I wonder. Because he has been planning this for a long long time. And he just happened to have a gun on him that morning while playing with his son. He is crazy and in my eyes his parents and the rest of his family are guilty too. Max should never be able to see his Dad or anyone from his family for that matter ever again - let alone have custody. Poor Max. He is going to grow up without his Mommy whom he loved so dearly. Prayers go out to little Max and Amy's family. We love you Amy! We'll see you again someday. Rest in Peace.

Anonymous said...

I don't like what you said but your entitled to your opionion. The white family don't deserve your hatred. The only person you can say anything to would be towards the son who is in jail. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. God Rest Amy and may peace come to this matter. As for max, may he be taken care of the best he can without people fighting over him and making everything more difficult.

Anonymous said...

It bothers me that people can be so shallow to make excuses for such a senseless death... Get a total grip! I am a christian and know God is to judge.
BUT experiencing with my own eyes the way Amy was treated by Tyler, you would feel foolish and down right ashamed for your comments below. I have a VERY hard time believing it was an act of self defense.
Yes, I will pray for god to save his soul, but NO I will not have sympathy for him nor his family. There was never sympathy for Amy while terrible remarks were made by Tyler.

Rest in peace Amy! We love you

Anonymous said...

Why Tyler White has no defence.

He shot the cel phone and deleted the messages

Verizon has all the Horrible messages he sent her.

I have a recording of the sheriff saying Tyler gave two verions of what happened. NO CREDIBILITY

He said he was on his knees begging which means in a panic he would have pulled the gun and shot her from that angle but the holes will show different.

He shot her twice

Why was he packing a gun ???

He did it in the garage because he didn't want to mess up the house.

When the jury learns who Amy Meyer really is they will NEVER believe that Amy Meyer would ever even think about shooting anyone for any reason. The trial is just a waist of time...Tyler is finished.

Anonymous said...

I have also witnessed how Tyler treated Amy...he was emotionally, verbally and probably physically abusive towards her and his family knew it too and they did nothing. The names and things Tyler & his family said to her were just horrific. And any normal human being that did KNOW how he treated her would be ASHAMED if they believed Tyler's story for even a second.

Amy had every right to move on and find someone that treated her like a human being. Why wouldnt you if you were emotiontally, verbally and probably physically abused by your husband. huh? This is just disgusting that people could even believe Tyler's story - especially if you knew Amy. Tyler is a coward and I believe he had this all planned out. So before you go defending him - if you didnt know how he treated her - keep your opinions to yourself. Tyler obviously didnt think about his son and what this is going to do to him...or maybe he did but didnt care. He doesnt deserve to see his son's face again and I'm praying Max will end up with Amy's family where he belongs.

This past year Amy was the happiest she has ever been in her life and I'm just glad she got to experience love the way it should have been. Rest in Peace AMY!!! We love you always and we'll see you again someday!

Dan said...

Message removed because I found it offensive. Sorry if that makes anyone unhappy, but let's not speak ill of those who can no longer defend themselves.

Anonymous said...

Here is what I see - Tyler is a very disturbed individual. His verbal abuse towards Amy has been going on a very long time. Unfortunately, the White family turned a blind eye to his rage and inappropriate behavior. No one wants to believe their child is going downhill or is capable of a horrendous act. But ultimately those closest to him should have seen the signs. The White family would like to blame this on Amy and say that she provoked him by leaving the marriage. Those closest to Amy know that she wanted that marriage to work in the beginning. But Tyler's verbal abuse and ongoing mistreatment was not producing a healthy or happy marriage. Amy tried to end the marriage quickly and swiftly but Tyler insisted on making her life hell - delaying, delaying, delaying. He was not doing this out of love - not an ounce. He was doing it out of hatred and a desire for revenge. His family and friends know this. Even church people - those professing to be Christians - would rather support Tyler's verbal abuse and behavior towards Amy as they couldn't see past her being with another man. How does that make any sense at all? What hypocrisy! Her current relationship was loving and healthy - and would have been so much better for Max to witness as he grows up as opposed to the vile names Tyler called Amy every single time he was in her presence (and also in the presence of Max). Christian community - are we so out of touch that we would rather see a marriage remain intact despite ongoing abuse? We need to open our eyes! People in abusive relationships NEED TO GET OUT! I understand that the White family and their supporters must be grieving the loss of the son/friend they thought they knew - but where is their compassion for the Meyer family? It's unspeakable that they have not given their condolences - it is widely known that they haven't. In regard to the crime itself, Tyler's side of the story is so far fetched it's unbelievable. Those who knew Amy know she was hurt and annoyed by Tyler's behavior, BUT SHE WAS NOT AFRAID FOR HER LIFE. His "she pulled a gun on me" theory is seriously flawed. Her motive wasn't there - but his motive was clear. Crystal clear. What a tragedy in all respects...

Anonymous said...

DITTO on the most recent comment! You couldnt have said it any better! Tyler was HORRIBLE to Amy...no wonder she left him...and he didnt love her....he just wanted to win. He didnt believe in divorce but murder was okay huh? DISGUSTING!! It's just wrong. Tyler, his family and his church. They are all wrong.

Anonymous said...

I agree....Tyler is one disturbed individual - hope he enjoys prison where he belongs and also never seeing his son. He had this planned which will soon come out - which will then be premeditated which will then result in more prison time.

Anonymous said...

Everyone wants to pretty up the story and make Amy look like an innocent queen. While Amy can't defend herself, neither can Tyler. While there is no excuse for what Tyler did, everyone should be truthful. Tyler may have been verbally abusive, but wouldn't most be if they found out their spouse was cheating, not to mention pregnant living w another man. Furthermore, reports say that she was a great mother, but Max was with Tyler's brother ans sister-in-law a lot of the time. Let's not forget DUI'S and a near death accident caused by her. None of these are excuses for what happened, but the whole story should be told. Its a real tradegy, both were troubled and needed help and no one seen it or they ignored it. The justice system will be fair ad God will be the judge for no sin is different from the other!

Anonymous said...

Don't even start with the whole "Tyler can't defend himself." He's still here--he's still living. Amy is the one that is no longer here to tell her story because he took her life. He brutally shot her and left his son to live the rest of his life with that memory and no parents. Don't even compare Amy's mistakes with Tyler's. Murder. That says it all. God will judge the wicked. Amy was the best mom ever, and Max spent as much time with her as she possibly could. The only reason he was with his father was because Amy tried to do the right thing. She would have been given full custody, unfortunately the coward murdered her before she could have her day in court. Poor little Maxy never should have been left alone with that monster. Amy should have pushed for supervised visitation only. I mean, what kind of father shaves his 1-year old's head bald to the scalp just to get back at his mother? That is horrible. I can't believe Tyler's family could allow things like that to happen. I just pray that justice is served and Max grows up with Amy's family who loves him unconditionally.

Anonymous said...

OMG are you kidding me? You are saying Tyler had a right to be verbally & probablly phsically abusive because Amy left him? HE WAS abusive before Amy left him. I witnessed it along with a lot of other people - including his family. That is why SHE LEFT HIM. Amy was getting away from the monster and found happiness with another man. They have been LEGALLY separated for a year and half!!! She had every right to find happiness and move on with her life. She didnt want to wait because she was in LOVE. They were just waiting to go to court in April for the divorce to be final. Tyler didnt love her anyway. You dont love someone when you treat them the way he treated her. He just wanted revenge. He is a sick individual. He used his son Max in a very demented way to get back at Amy and SOMETHING should have been done when he shaved his son's head down to the scalp! That is child abuse and if that's not a clue of his demented acts I dont know what is!!!!

And the only reason MAX was ever at his brother's house was because TYLER lived at his BROTHER's house for a LONG TIME. Amy was trying to do the right thing and let Max be a part of his father's life. God knows she was trying to do the right thing.



Tyler is the one who didnt want MAX to begin with...when Amy was pregnant he told MULTIPLE people he didnt want the baby- in front of Amy. What husband would say that about their child and in front of their wife and wife's friends!

Anonymous said...

Does anyone know why Tyler got fired from his job the day before he committed the murder?

Anonymous said...

Tyler got fired from his job for insurance fraud. That same week he was also dropped by his attorney for the custody case. Amy had many recordings of conversations with Tyler that documented his continued verbal abuse even after the marriage ended. Her lawyer also subpoenaed Verizon to retrieve the vile text messages he believed he had deleted. It is likely that Amy would have received full custody of Max. I have no idea why his family turned a blind eye to the psychotic tendancies of Tyler. Clearly, a path of destructive behavior had been established. Why didn't they get him help instead of fueling his rage, as Tyler's father did by joining in on the Amy-bashing.Their negligence proved fatal for poor Amy. The jurors will see, through Tyler's actions and other documentation, that there was obviously motive for him to commit MURDER. His self defense claims are absolutely ridiculous. While Amy was not perfect, no one is, there is no excuse, NO MATTER WHAT SHE DID, for the brutal manner in which he killed her. Tyler White should never see the outside of a prison as long as he lives.

Anonymous said...

I can't believe the cruel and inconsiderate comments posted above regarding Amy. Bringing up Amy's past, which you apparently know very little about, is disgraceful. Tyler will be the one to stand trial...not Amy! Those of us who knew Amy well and for many years, knew her as a sweet and caring person who loved her family, friends, and especially her son Max. Her life was tragically taken away too soon. Amy was not given a choice. Tyler callously took her life as though it meant nothing. And now Max will grow up without his mommy. He was not given a choice either. But Tyler had a choice...he chose to shoot and kill Amy and leave his son motherless. However, his unbelievable "story" surrounding the events of that morning is just that..a story. The truth will come out and justice will be served. The bigger tragedy in all of this is that it did not have to happen. Tyler's downward spiral began months ago and no one in his family got him the help he so desperately needed. The signs were all there...and ignored time and time again. Maybe if he had received some professional counseling, Amy would still be here with us and we would not be pouring out our grieve through this blog. The so-called Christian community in which this horrible tragedy occurred should be ashamed for being so judgemental. Divorce is wrong, but murder is justifiable? We should stand by Tyler because Amy was wrong for removing herself from an abustive relationship? Amy deserved to know true love and happiness, which she had finally found after years of abuse at the hand of Tyler. It takes a brave person to get out of that situation, and Amy was brave....for herself and for Max. She just wanted the best possible life for him. Let's talk about the true victim here. Amy was a victim of domestic violence...like so many other women out there. It's so tragic that it came to this. I pray daily for Amy's family, friends, and also for Tyler's family...that they may realize that enough damage has been done. I also pray for Tyler..that he may feel the full magnitude of what he has done, speak the truth, and allow healing to begin. In the name of revenge and winning, Tyler has caused tremendous suffering and unspeakable pain and grief for the Meyer family. So, to his family...please let go of "winning" and put an end to the bitterness. Enough is enough. Max should be where he belongs...with the Meyer family. That is all they have left of Amy...except for wonderful memories. Peace be with all involved in this tradegy and may somehow, grace be granted.

Dan said...

Shattered

He had no clothes to tear for he was God,
but his reflection had defied The Law.
Instead, he shattered the mirror of Man
and threw the pieces all across the earth.
His image remains, it waxes and wanes
as people either love, or turn to hate.
God sees Himself in fragments here and there:
where people come together in His name,
when lovers dedicate their lives to Him
and replicate creation through their love,
when children's eyes are opened to His world . . .
He sees his image glow in each of these
and breathes his Spirit on the coals of them
with Grace and Hope that everyone will catch
and burn until the mirror grows intact.

------------------

As a Catholic, I cannot agree that all sins are the same in the eyes of God... venial sin is not the same as mortal sin. In the end, however, the courtroom isn't a Church and the judge and jury are not God -- sin, moral or otherwise, isn't the issue anymore.

Anonymous said...

I cant believe the bs story Tyler is telling! Are you kidding me? It is such a tragedy how he took Amy's life and for his son to be without a mommy.
Own up to what you did Tyler. For having this so planned out you sure did make a lot of mistakes. Soon the small community will know the truth.

Anyone that can support him or believes him needs help too.

I will continue to pray for Max and Amy's family and that Max ends up where he belongs...with Amy's side.

Anonymous said...

Let's be honest about a few things. Amy didn't just leave Tyler for another man. She tried working things out, she tried counseling. The verbal abuse and mistreatment continued. To the poster who said that "Tyler may have been verbally abusive, but wouldn't most be if they found out their spouse was cheating". The answer is - NO - it is NOT OK to be verbally abusive in any situation. Look up the definition of verbal abuse. It's way beyond having an occasional argument or disagreement. And it ceases to be "cheating" when one is legally separated and desperately trying to make a divorce final. In regard to Amy's past mistakes, she was not yet a Mom when those choices were made. She was on a path to living a full, happy life. It's interesting to read the posting "God will be the judge for no sin is different from the other!". It's very convenient to say that now - when Tyler has been charged with murder. When Amy wanted out of her marriage, people thought that "sin" was much greater than other sin - like a husband constantly verbally abusing and trying to beat down his wife. It is sad there is so much hypocrisy out there. Because of that hypocrisy, Amy is not with us today. For those of you who are continuing to defend Tyler - you are helping the cycle of abuse to continue. Tyler needs to tell the truth about what happened, be accountable for his actions and spare the Meyer family any further pain. Friends and family can support Tyler as a person, but they need to make him accountable and stop finding ways to blame Amy, the victim. Hasn't Tyler's family and defenders turned a blind eye long enough? If committing murder is not enough to wake people up to the deep, dark issues Tyler has within him, what will it take?

Anonymous said...

To the person supporting Tyler that said why wouldnt someone be abusive when they found out their wife was living with another man and was pregnant - I have news for you but being abusive is wrong in ANY case and Amy was a victim of domestic violence. AND the guy she was living with was HER BOYFRIEND whom she was in LOVE WITH. She had EVERY right to go live with him. She was legally separated from Tyler. Tyler had a girlfriend. There is no excuse for Tyler's behavior. He couldn't just move on with his life and take it like a "man" No - he had to get "revenge" and "win" - it's just sick, disgusting, wrong and for anyone to support him is in the same category. Tyler didn't love Amy - she was part of a game to him. Think long and hard about it next time you go defending him.

Anonymous said...

To support the person that left the comment about Amy trying to work things out in her marriage in the beginning - that is so true. She went to counseling many many times. She just didn't leave Tyler for another man. Obviously she couldnt take the ABUSE from Tyler anymore....Amy was brave and stood up fore herself like more woman should. IF any good can come out of this - maybe it can SAVE a life of another woman who is in an abusive relationship. If you are reading this - you can get out. Be brave like Amy was.

Anonymous said...

Amy wanted to be with another man. If sleeping with another man is a working on her marriage then yes she did a GREAT job of working on her marriage. And yes, when Amy was attending the counseling sessions she was sleeping with another man. Check your facts.

Also a "good" mother would beastfeed her child and choose NOT to drink so she could do so.

Child abuse because Tyler cut his hair? You're more ignorant than you choose to believe. Until you see child abuse, you're plain stupid in that area.

Also don't look so pathetic when you write about areas you do not know about. AKA: Yes, AMY did have 2 DUI's and almost killed her best friend because of it. That best friend also wore an upper body brace because of Amy's actions. Ask the friend if you don't believe this.

Tyler is innocent until proven guilty. That is the beauty of our legal system. You all can continue judging him and hating him but remember that.

Anonymous said...

What kind of world would this be if everyone was a criminal just because they had gotten a DUI or left a bad marriage. Your defending a murderer, no matter if he is convicted or not. I hope you can live with yourself. THINK OF MAX for gods sake and get off your high horse that Tyler was the victim here. The words I saw he called her....he should be put away for abuse. If she was such a bad person because of her DUI, why did he still marry her, huh, funny, must not have been a big deal until HE murdered her, now you are scrounging up anything you can to make her the bad guy. Good luck.....normal people know who the victim is. Amy was a awesome mother and friend....i envy her for trying to happy especially for MAX.

Anonymous said...

You are missing the point. Are you making excuses for Tyler murdering Amy? You are as sick as him.

And Tyler shaving his son's head down to the scalp was one thing - but the REASON he did it was another and that is demented. He used his son to get back at Amy. Poor Max.

Tyler did not love Amy - it was a game to him. That's why he ended the game in cold blooded murder & had it planned. If you can't see this then maybe you should check your facts.

Anonymous said...

Further more......NICE that your "innocent" man had his son right there during all of this too....I consider that CHILD ABUSE! A man that cares about his child......I THINK NOT

Anonymous said...

Your BEAUTY of the legal system will end when this isn't in Wells County, where everyone is brain washed. It helps when you have it in with the judge, isn't that the real beauty.

Anonymous said...

To the person defending Tyler... Are you saying that anyone that does not breastfeed or has gotten a DUI - should be murdered? WOW. Or are you too blind & evil yourself that you see nothing wrong with what Tyler did. We are talking about first degree murder here. Not DUI's or breastfeeding. Are you kidding me? I will say it again. We are talking about premeditated cold blooded murder & I hope you can live with yourself knowing that you are supporting a murderer. Tyler needs to own up to what he did but doubt he ever will because he is a coward. Wheres the remorse? I see none. If it was self defense wouldn't Tyler show at least some remorse. He was smiling in his mug shot. Think of all the innocent people that have been affected by Tyler's sick revenge plan.

Amy's past has no relevance to why Tyler did what he did. There is no EXCUSE so if that's all the defense you have - you are in for a rude awakening.

AND if Tyler loved his son at all he NEVER would have put him through this. Eventually Max will know what his Dad did and Tyler will have to live with that for the rest of his life....in prison where he belongs and his son knowing he murdered his mommy.

Anonymous said...

WOMEN who are in abusive relationships - if you are reading this - please learn from this - GET OUT and surround yourself with good people who lift you up, not put you down & degrade you. There are people out there in the same situation and there's support groups you can attend to also help you get out. Be BRAVE and take a stand like Amy was trying to do. There should be NO tolerance for domestic violence & abusive relationships. Maybe this can save a life.

Cami said...

To the supporter of Tyler, how small of you to continue to berate Amy when she is no longer here to defend herself. The past is just that...the past and it is irrelevant to what has currently transpired. You continue to speak of things you know nothing about...or maybe the distorted truth you have heard from Tyler. To equate not breastfeeding with not being a good mother is absurdity! I guess that over 50% of all mothers out there are bad in your asinine opinion. But since everyone is entitled to their opinion, let me give you mine. It is apparent that Tyler has surrounded himself with family and friends who have the same distorted view of reality as he does.

You obviously don't know anything about the accident to which you keep referring, so I would keep your comments to yourself. Check YOUR facts! You say to ask her best friend? Well, her best friend loved Amy as she does her family and NEVER blamed her for what happened. Neither did anyone in her family...and since I am part of that family, I should know. We all loved Amy and NEVER would have had any bad feelings toward her as we try to live our life with grace and compassion. It was an ACCIDENT! What Tyler did was NOT an accident...it was calculated, cold-blooded and premeditated MURDER! The truth WILL come out. Anyone who knew Amy knows that she did NOT have a gun that day...so let's think about who planted it at the scene. I think we all know the answer to that. There WILL be justice for Amy!

And I must say that I'm tired of all of the anonimity. So I choose to display my name because I am not ashamed of my postings as perhaps you are as you should be.

Dan said...

Cami,
So sorry for your loss. I hope this entry has not made things worse for you or your family. Please let me know if you want any or all of it removed.

- Dan

Cami said...

Dan...it's fine. No need to remove posts or edit comments...even if they are as insane as some of the recent posts...unless they are vulgar, of course. This should be a forum for all to respond. The more awareness brought to Amy's situation, the better! Maybe this can help another victim of domestic violence get out before it's too late. NO ONE should have to endure what Amy did.

Stef Dubach said...

Tyler supporter...You want to ask Amy's best friend about the accident...well here I am. I NEVER once blamed Amy for the accident...it was just that - an ACCIDENT. She stood by me from day one as I did to her. I loved her so much and that's why we remained best friends. She was family to me (and also to my family) and although I don't know you because you won't say your name -I'm pretty sure you have NO idea how it feels to have your best friend murdered. So before you go making judgements...why don't YOU get your facts straight.

Amy was a GREAT mother and I witnessed it. She loved Max more than anything and now he's going to grow up without his mommy. What a tragedy this is and for you to defend a cold blooded murderer puts you in the same category.

Anonymous said...

Your exactly right Amy did want to be with another man, ONE THAT LOVED HER UNCONDITIONALLY. Not tried to control her and belittle her.

Dan said...

So sorry for your loss, Stef. It's so rare to find good friends and so sad to one in such a sudden, violent, senseless way.

Lisa said...

Marriage should be = mutual love, respect, forgiveness. Tyler = verbal abuse from the beginning of dating all the way through the marriage.

Breastfeeding versus bottle feeding = both are done by "good" mothers. What an ignorant statement to declare otherwise. Talk to any doctor - they'll tell you the same.

A "good" parent = selfless, unconditional love, puts child's needs ahead of their own.

Tyler = shaved Max's head to the scalp into a nasty mohawk when Amy picked up Max so he could be in her sister's wedding pictures - he did this on the day of the wedding, hours before the pictures were to be taken. Max looked like a cancer victim. To the poster who defended this action - I hope you never parent a child if you cannot see how demented and sick this is. Using a child to hurt or get back at someone = child abuse.

A parent's past mistakes BEFORE having a child = we've all made them and we learn from them, as Amy did. We rise to the occasion of parenting - we change because we want to do the best for our child - we're seeing their needs ahead of ours.

A parent's present deliberate actions AFTER having a child - murdering their child's mother, stealing at work = a disturbed, narcissistic person - the worst example of a father I can possibly name.

Innocent before proven guilty = I think this statement is reserved for someone who has not admitted to murdering in cold blood.

"Judging and hating Tyler" - not so. Believe me - the majority of Amy's supporters only want to shed light on the domestic violence she endured, how she was brave for herself and her son to get out, how she fell in love and found a life that was stable and positive for Max and how she was taken from this life at the hand's of Tyler. And this is the story we will continue to tell until Tyler admits the full extent of what he's done.

Stef said...

Dan, thanks for your sympathy. I am so glad you created this forum. Amy has no voice now. It was taken from her so we need to be her voice...and this is a good start. This is a time for Amy's loved ones to speak out. Thanks again Dan.

Anonymous said...

The Narcissist knows that he is a con artist, a fraud, an elaborate hoax, a script, hollow and really non-existent. The narcissist hates love - however and wherever it is manifested. Thus, for instance, when his spouse demonstrates her love to her child, he wishes them all dead. Nothing less than a horrible, tortuous death. He is so envious of his spouse that he wishes she never existed. Being a tad paranoid, he also nurtures the growing conviction that she is doing it ON PURPOSE, to remind him how miserable he is, how deficient, how deprived and discriminated against. He regards her interaction with their child to be a provocation, and assault on his emotional balance. Seething envy, boiling rage, and violent thoughts is the flammable concoction that floods the narcissist's brain whenever he sees other people happy.

To think this makes him grand, the narcissist must deliberately think absurdly, like a little child thinks. Indeed, a narcissist is, above all, an adult who obdurately refuses to stop thinking like a pre-school age child. WHY? In order that he can delude himself with all this play-acting.

Anonymous said...

HOW DOES A NARCISSIST WHO IS DIVORCING HIS WIFE FEEL WHEN SHE STARTS DATING BEFORE THE DIVORCE IS FINAL??

Dating before the divorce is final, as long as you have filed and you are living apart, is legal and okay. However, it is BEST to remain very discreet because narcissists are VERY POSSESSIVE and CAN become ANGRY and even VIOLENT if their "possession" moves on. If need be, be prepared to call 911 and/or get a restraining order if anything happens while you are dating. And KEEP your doors locked, no matter what. Treat your narcissist as like a delicate time bomb that is very unpredictable. DO NOT give him the benefit of the doubt FOR ANYTHING. The Narcissist will do WHATEVER it takes to hurt you and punish you for leaving the marriage, AND WILL DO THINGS YOU NEVER IMAGINED HE WAS CAPABLE OF!!

Tricia said...

The audacity this Tyler supporter has to come on here and spew this garbage is incredible. My son is 3 days younger than Max. My husband was gone for 2 days last weekend, and the way my son reacted when he walked in made me sit and cry. He couldn't stop laughing, kissing/hugging him and wanted no one else. All I could think about was Max. He hasn't seen his Mom in 2 1/2 wks, and there won't be a reunion where he gets to kiss and hug on his mom that he loves so much...ever. He doesn't understand why she's "sleeping" now, but he'll have to endure that pain forever. His Dad created that, and you want to talk about crap like breastfeeding? If he chooses, Max can later speak with and hear his Dad. He can speak to his Mom, too...but will hear nothing. You don't GET to criticize Amy as a parent. Abuse doesn't always leave a bruise. When you use your child to inflict pain/anger, it's abuse. Your so-called arguement is ridiculous and not worth the time you took to type it.

Anonymous said...

AMEN Tricia.

Anonymous said...

To the Tyler supporter or if there is more than 1... Sometimes people really aren't the person you think they are. If you think that it's okay to be abusive to someone in any circumstance or use your child to get back at the child's mother then YOU also have serious problems and maybe you need counseling. And I feel sorry for your significant other if you have one.

Anonymous said...

Nobody is trying to justify what Tyler did. If he murdered her, he clearly was sick. Its a shame though that so many are quick to judge and be one sided. Both of these individuals had mental problems. I am not trying to be rude but Amy could have been in the same shoes as Tyler a couple of years before. God had mercy on her. People are quick to deny or try to hide these circumstances when things like this happen to family members or friends.

I don't know the circumstances behind their marriage, but I do know that marriage can be a struggle at times and those that say it can't are lying. Does God justify divorce? Only behind two exceptions; for those who committ adultry and those who are unequally yoked religiously. For anyone to separate from a marriage without divorce, begin another serious relationship and become pregnant within a year is troubling, but not an excuse to committ murder.

I feel sorry for Max to have to endure the rest of his life without either of his parents, I feel sorry for both families that grieve, but I refuse to look at this one-sided and I wont be the judge because any of us could find ourselves in situations like Tyler and Amy.

Life is delicate, tell your loved ones and friends that you love them everyday. Be supportive of them and let them know your concerned about them, but more importantly, talk to them about God.

Anyone who blames parents in this situation are truely selfish and clearly are not faithful to God. Both set of parents, family members, and friends are grieving.

Anonymous said...

To the past post, can you please explain how Amy could have been "in the same shoes a couple of years ago". God knows Amy never would have murdered another person in such a horrible way.

Anonymous said...

Im trying to direct my attention to this but honestly! I don't care about anyone on this blog! Why do I need to waist my time bloggin about something that creates an arguement. Im tired, Im destroyed, I can't beleive this happened. I don't know any of you. I know the people involved in the incident and the families involved. I've spoke with you directly. There is nothing good I can say. The topic is GOD REST HER SOUL and nobody has any respect to just do that. DAN lets open up another BLOG. one for arguing so I can unleash everything I have and one for respecting the death of Amy. I have alot of comments but im not doing it anymore. PS are your computers registered. If so, are you able and willing to testify.

Anonymous said...

THEN why are you blogging if u dont care??????

Anonymous said...

To the blogger who doesn't care...what do you think we are trying to do? We, her family and friends, want justice for Amy. We want to bring awareness to the situation and let people know who Amy really was...a kind, compassionate, and loving person whose life was ended by violence. She was a victim of domestic violence. She's not the person the White family has portrayed her to be...or that people on this blog have portrayed her to be. With regard to testifying, this is all heresay and none of these postings can be entered into evidence.

To anonymous who said that "if Tyler murdered her.." Are you kidding me? He admitted to being the shooter which means he MURDERED her. There is NO justification for murder no matter what you would like to believe. And no one is trying to cover up anything. Her family and friends are speaking out because we knew her better than anyone. Amy did not have mental problems. She was a victim of constant verbal and emotional abuse, which was WITNESSED by many of her friends. The one who is trying to cover up here is Tyler. If you want to believe his lies, you will have to live with that. And about the ridiculous divorce statements, if you think that a person should remain in a marriage in which they are enduring constant abuse, then your values are seriously messed up. It is because of so-called religious people like you and your interpretation of God's word that these tragic events occur. NO ONE should stay in an unhealthy marriage. I'm sorry that your views are so narrow-minded.

Amy was a fantastic person who had so much to give others. There WILL be justice for Amy...we firmly believe that. May peace and love be felt by all of Amy's friends and family during this time, especially little Maxy.

Anonymous said...

I do believe that God does forgive even the worst of sinners. However, one must be truly sorry for their sin and ask for forgiveness. Only God knows ones soul, but as long as Tyler continues with his lies and lack of remorse, I whole-heartedly believe that his soul will burn in hell for all eternity.

Peace be with you, Amy, in heaven with God!

Anonymous said...

OK seriously - the Tyler defender is demented and he/she needs help! Don't preach to me or anyone about our relationship with God. Amy talked OPENLY about her relationship with GOD to all her friends and family...and GOT KICKED out of the LIFE CHURCH...her church that she has been going to for over 7 years. This church is in Bluffton if some people do not know this. The pastor called her a few days before she was murdered and told her she was NO longer welcome in the church. What preacher does that?? Where's the love and compassion in the Wells Co community. I see none. I do see a lot of judgemental people who think they are better than everyone else. It all started when Kenny White called the preacher and told him that Amy was going to church with her boyfriend and for some reason the preacher listened to him and called Amy. Amy was SOOO upset by this. Who does Kenny White and the entire White family think they are. I'm sorry but Kenny White is demented as much as his son. No wonder Tyler is a narcissist. Kenny tried to get Amy fired from coaching too and called the Athletic Director at Bluffton. Too bad for Kenneth that the AD and coaches loved AMY!. What human being does that? Can you not let go the fact that AMY was leaving her ABUSIVE husband because she wanted to be LOVED unconditionally. Let it go.

Oh and please ellaborate on how Amy would have been in the same shoes a few years before. Are you kidding me? Seriously, you need to stop saying that this could happen to anyone. THIS DOES NOT just happen to anyone. This is not normal. Quit making exuses for Tyler & his family. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. There is no excuse for what he has done. Amy would have NEVER even thought of this demented act and you need to realize that.

Anonymous said...

Tyler will burn in hell unless HE ADMITS to what he did and asks for forgiveness but knowing him he never will. Fess up to what you did and had planned.

Anonymous said...

I'm going to comment on Tyler shaving his son's head down to the scalp. I have seen the picture of this and whoever thinks this was cute (aka Tyler's family) is demented. First of all, to use your son to get back at his mother is sick. If you don't know the reason behind why Tyler did this - then don't comment on it. IT IS CHILD ABUSE.

Whitney said...

All I have to say is why did Tyler call 911 twice?? Oh yeah and they were 54 seconds apart? Thats right 54 seconds apart. Because he had to plot the self defense. For Gosh sake Amy had every right to move on. What the heck was she suppose to do continue to be unhappy and fight in court months after months. Tyler supporter, do you have any idea how long a custody battle can go on?? Years and years. Is that fair to either parties? And espically for Max. Tyler's family still can talk to Tyler, they still can see him smile, can Amy's family talk to her, or see her smile? NO! A change of venue will be comming soon. So Amy supporters just be patient. And Max hang in there big guy!

Sara said...

I am not afraid to say who I am. My brother was engaged to Amy a few years back. Unfortunately, i didnt get the pleasure of knowing Amy like others did. Amy was ALWAYS very nice to me whenever i ran into her. I think that speaks volumes of her character, personality and who she really is. One of my other brothers was very close friends with Amy. I am very sad for his loss.
It makes me SICK TO MY STOMACH to hear of people supporting Tyler White. Who the hell do you think you are? Murder supporters I guess. You should all be ashamed of yourselves. MAX, that sweet little boy should be with the people that love him the MOST- the MEYER FAMILY. That is the very "least" that can be done in this situation to honor the memory of Amy Meyer. Rest in Peace, Amy.

Anonymous said...

AMY shaved MAX's head. Cute pic tho!!

Dan said...

Message deleted because I found it distasteful. Please don't write such things about those who are no longer here to defend themselves. If I could give both families peace, I would, but peace is a long way off for everyone involved except Amy, so please, let her be.

Anonymous said...

Tyler can't defend himself on ur lame blog any better than she can why u so afraid of the truth

Dan said...

"Tyler can't defend himself on ur lame blog any better than she can why u so afraid of the truth"

Let's hope the truth comes out in court. You're wrong, though, to compare Tyler's ability to defend himself to someone he killed. The jury will decide who to believe based on the evidence presented at the trial. Tyler can speak, then. e can speak now. He can say whatever he wants and it will be public record.

Amy has no voice. You can say what you want in your own venue. Start your own web site, write your own letter to the editor. But here I'll remove anything I find offensive.

Anonymous said...

What is there to Defend? Tyler murdered Amy that is pretty hard to defend if you ask me. I guess if it makes certain people feel better to come up with excuses for Tyler's behavior and having committed murder rather than accept the truth then that is their prerogative. But continuing to believe Tyler's lies is helping no one. Look where we are now because certain people wanted to turn a blind eye to what Tyler was doing while Amy was alive. Maybe if people would stop defending him we wouldn't be where we are today.

Anonymous said...

Hey Anonymous Tyler defenders. How come none of you can same your name? Maybe it's because your ashamed of yourself for defending a murderer.

Anonymous said...

Why would Tyler shoot Amy's cell phone and blow it to pieces if it was self defense? Seriously can any of you Tyler supporters please answer that question?

Anonymous said...

This is a little education lesson for all of you ignorant Tyler supporters who have believed his lies for far too long. Turning a blind eye to abuse or making excuses for the perpetrator is fundamentally wrong.

When does conflict turn into abuse?
CONTEXT is EVERYTHING!-intent of the perpetrator, meaning to the victim, and effect on the victim. By shaving Max's hair into a mohawk, Tyler knew it would hurt Amy; therefore, the INTENT was to cause harm. And to the anonymous poster, Amy did NOT shave Max's hair, contrary to what you may think. It was the day of her sister's wedding and Amy wanted Max in the photos. Tyler refused to allow Max to go, until attorneys intervened. Tyler was furious at Amy and so he did it to get back at her...so Max would have a mohawk in the wedding photos.

Tyler's constant verbal and emotional abuse had a negative effect on Amy, which is ABUSE and not conflict.

And something else for everyone to ponder.

Why is domestic violence relevant in custody disputes?
1)Abuse does NOT end with separation.
2)Child's exposure to inappropriate role model.
3)Undermining of non-abusive parent.
4)Perpetual litigation as form of on-going control (and Amy's death did not end this...it is STILL going on because of the Whites)
5)In extreme cases-homicide

Think long and hard about this and wonder how you contributed to this tragic situation. But more importantly, think about how you can end this so peace and justice can finally be a reality for the Meyer family.

Anonymous said...

To the anonymous person who said Tyler can't defend himself on this lame blog anymore than Amy can...
I can't believe you even wrote that first of all. Second of all do you have any compassion & sympathy at all for Amy or her friends & family? I was Amy's friend. I can't talk to her anymore. I can't laugh with her anymore. I can't see her smiling face anymore. Think of that. I guess if you are defending Tyler or actually believe his story then this means nothing to you because you have no heart. Your comment sounded like something Tyler would say...it's so far off and irrational. Were you his accomplice in all of this? Sure makes me wonder.

And for the record Tyler already gave his story - HE WAS ABLE TO SPEAK after he murdered Amy. He told police he shot her in self defense because Amy pulled a gun on him first. That's his defense. I know it's not the truth but he is still alive to speak. Amy has no voice. And now Tyler's friends and family are making matters worse by defending/supporting him. There comes a time where you have to stop. Tyler has caused enough damage.

Anonymous said...

Lets focus on the positives and joy amy brought to so many lives. Was a friend of both, It does nothing to rant, but cause more anger. Lets focus on the happiness Amy had, and the accomplishes she had. She was so many great things. and brought so much laughter to so many lives. And pray for both families, as all close friends and family are going through a rough time. Some jump to the conclusion that he is a liar and it was not self defense and some believe his story and say it was. No one was there, no one knows. The jury will decide, but that still won't make it the truth. Don't focus on the details you hear or think are true. Just have to sit and wait it out. Until then, I'm sure Amy would be happy for everyone to remember the good about her, and her husband, and stop focusing all your energy on the negative towards either one. all the friends and families are in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

Please don't refer to him as her husband. While he may still have been legally, he sure wasn't in any other way. Amy would be disgusted to hear you refer to the man that killed her as her husband.

Anonymous said...

In regard to the Nov 18, 10:22 am post: Your post is very typical of those who do not know anything about the way Tyler was behaving for the past year and a half. He was saying and doing very, very disturbing things. In retrospect, we all wish Amy had taken legal action to stop his behavior. You can tell when someone posts on this blog and either has no idea this abuse was occurring or are still turning a blind eye to it. This is not about a typical couple who had typical problems. Amy was in a very dangerous situation - just look at the outcome! For anyone to suggest otherwise doesn't know what went on! For you to say "Some jump to the conclusion that he is a liar and it was not self defense and some believe his story and say it was. No one was there, no one knows." The people close to Amy know. We know that she never had a gun - that she would never put her child in that dangerous situation and that Tyler was the one doing many abusive things leading up to her murder. Aside from Tyler's abuse and hurtful court delaying tactics, Amy was happy and looking forward to the next phase of her life. People in that state of mind don't have a motive to kill. No one with any intelligence believes Tyler's story! People who believe it are in denial. Yes, ultimately the court will decide the verdict but that doesn't mean we have to ignore the facts leading up to it - i.e. Tyler's sick behavior. Or that we can't look at each other and say - why would Tyler shoot Amy's cell phone to pieces at the scene of the crime if it was self defense? Because she had many, many recordings of his verbal abuse and was about to present it in court the day after the murder! All of this and yet still some people choose to believe that Tyler shot in self defense. WAKE UP PEOPLE! Every time you refer to the murder being in self defense, you're wounding Amy over and over again. The way to honor Amy's memory is to acknowledge that she was the victim of domestic abuse. That's the story that needs to be told. Amy isn't served by the passive-aggressive posts on this site that say we should support both of them. Murder is the action of ONE.

Tricia said...

Bravo 2:07pm!! 10:22am, you say that you were a friend to both. I was Amy's friend, but not her BEST friend. Yet everytime I think of her and something hysterical that she had done or said, it breaks my heart. While I cherish her memory, I am bursting at the seems with rage at what happened to her, and the complete injustice that has been occuring since her passing. How do you call yourself her friend, and yet disregard the manor in which she perished? How can you be her friend and not have even the slightest ounce of anger?

While Tyler is the only one who can really "say" what happened, I can't wait until the trial. Then you will all see what he was putting Amy through, the evidence of how he basically executed her and the MONSTER that he is.

Anonymous said...

Seriously there are still people out there that may believe Tyler? Are you kidding me?

And we are honoring Amy and we are remembering her for who she was - a sweet, funny, caring and wonderful mommy and friend...AND we are also here to pray for justice to be served and make people aware of the abusive relationship Amy was in so it could maybe help save a life. And all you so called mutual friends or Tyler defenders need to realize that Amy was brutally murdered. I knew the murderer too and what he did to Amy this past year and half is unheard of (and it started long before then) and for you to sit there and even THINK for a second that Amy brought a gun there that day...then you are obviously blinded by Tyler's persona and you need help.

And for you to say we "jump" to the conclusion that Tyler is a liar is absurd. We don't "jump" to anything. We whole heartedly KNOW that Tyler is a cold blooded murderer, liar & a sick human being... and we are HERE to speak out for Amy because she can't. No, we will never know what happened that morning but everyday the thought of Amy's last 20 minutes of life just kill me. I am sure Tyler degraded & called her horrible names right down to the second he shot her so the next time you think of defending him - you think of Amy's last 20 minutes of her life. How scared she must have been. The look in her eyes.

And I will pray for Tyler - that he can somehow get the courage to admit what he did and show some remorse. And I will also pray for all you so called mutual friends and Tyler defenders that you may realize (with the help of God) what a horrible monster Tyler really is.

And most importantly I will continue to pray for Amy's family, friends and her beautiful son Max.
And may justice be served. We love and miss you Amy! You were the funniest and most amazing person I have ever known! Rest in Peace!

Amy said...

It is not possible to be a friend of Amy AND a friend of Tyler. If you would have seen and heard the terrible things he did to her and said to her, you would be ashamed to call him a human being let alone a friend.
As the friends and family of Amy, we ARE remembering the wonderful memories we have with her, but what upsets us the most is that we no longer have the opportunity to make new memories with her. Tyler took her from us. Have you not thought about the future that Amy was going to have??? She was building a wonderful new life for herself AWAY FROM TYLER. She had a partner who saw her as a person and not a posession and loved her deeply. She was going to be blessed with TWO beautiful sons. She had a brilliant career ahead of her. She had and was going to touch the lives of so many people in a positive way. Do you still not see why we are so angry???
As for thinking about the good qualities of Tyler, I hope you have a nanosecond to spare because that's all the time it would take. The only good thing he did was to play a small role in Max's conception. Amy would be disgusted by your comment.

Anonymous said...

WELL SAID AMY!!

Anonymous said...

To all of Amy's friends and famliy who are writing and reading this message board:

It is very obvious what kind of person Amy was by the amazing things you say on this board. She was a beautiful soul inside and out and there are no words that describe the sadness of this trajedy. I pray daily for her, Max, and Lee. I can't imagine losing my fiance the way that Lee has. He and Max have lost their world. They have lost their future. They have lost their everything. And what breaks my heart the most is that it wasn't because of an illness, or an accident. It was because this sick sick sick man couldn't handle it. I met Amy this past summer, but have known Lee for many years. I think that you can judge how a person really is after spending a week with them, and she was a wonderful mother, girlfriend, and person.
I can only hope that one day a mother and father can sleep through the night without crying themselves to sleep over their daughters death. Friends can smile and laugh rather than cry when they think of her. A boyfriend can begin to heal and instead of taking each moment as it comes, start living life again. ANd my biggest hope of all is that a little boy learns who is mother truly is, and can hear stories of her by all of you whom were her friends. Because the biggest trajedy is a child never hearing their mother say I love you, never getting a hug goodnight after a bad dream, or a kiss when you fall. I hope that all of Amy's friends and family can do that in her memory and honor.

Dan said...

Well said. Well written.

Anonymous said...

Meyer - I think about you everyday! I miss you!

Anonymous said...

Where did Tyler work? And why do people think he was embezzling?

Anonymous said...

He worked at Farm Bureau in Bluffton.

Anonymous said...

Because HE GOT FIRED for fraud and embezzling the day before he murdered Amy.

Anonymous said...

Tyler White was not fired.

Anonymous said...

Check your facts. According to Farm Bureau he was fired.

Anonymous said...

Who is this person defending Tyler?
Tyler did get fired.
Tyler did murder Amy and NOT in self defense. He had it planned.
Tyler is a narcossist.
Tyler is a coward.
Tyler never loved Amy or Max. How do you love your son and kill his mother?
Tyler will get what's coming to him.
Tyler will never see his son again - or even better his son will never want to see him again. Max will know what his father did someday.
Tyler will burn in hell.

Anonymous said...

Amy's family and friends will make sure little Max knows all about his mommy. Max will understand someday but all we can do now is pray for him and Amy's family and that justice is served.

Anonymous said...

Are we sure Tyler was fired- I don't think police ever charged him with embezzlement, did they?

Anonymous said...

Murder trumps embezzlement

Anonymous said...

How many crimes can one human being commit before people start realizing that Tyler White is guilty as SIN and one disturbed individual...I can't even stand to hear his name. Can't wait for this all to be over and he is in PRISON where he belongs...maybe there he won't be so COCKY because if he is it won't be so pretty for him.

Anonymous said...

Tyler White was not fired. That is a fact.

And yes, Hopefully someday Maxwell White will be fully aware of who his mother really was.

It's expected to be upset, outraged, and angry towards the events of last October, but that's just what needs to be done, focusing on the facts. Which this blog is obviously the last place to go to for. Tyler did love Amy, he supported her while she was unemployed for how long? and while in prison. And Amy always went to Tyler when she needed someone. Until she began having an affair... and for all of you that like to think it was OK because they'd been separated for 2 years, no, they were still together when it began. Tyler isn't the evil cold blooded murderer u all like to think he is, just like Amy was far from being the saint you make her out to be. No one is perfect. And no one was there that morning.

And anyone that wants to complain about people posting anonymously, how about you don't make your post anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Lets focus on the positive, joy and wonderful things Amy brought to this world and blessed so many lives with. She was an unbelievably amazing person, and it rubbed off onto everyone she came into contact with. We can rant and rave all day about the hatred towards the individual who took her life, but those are feelings caused from the devil and just going to bring you down and cause anger. Take the time to remember Amy for that beautiful human being she was, and that adorable child she brought into this wonderful world. RIP Amy Meyer

Tricia said...

For 2:28pm, let's do a fact check then and bare all truths, shall we? If it is indeed a fact that he was not fired, elaborate on why he wasn't working. Yep, no way was Amy a saint and she made some mistakes, but she was a beautiful soul and don't think for a second that you have a right to say otherwise, you obviously didn't know her like the people that care about her. Why wouldn't Tyler just give Amy a divorce?! If she was such a bad wife and person like you people say, why wouldn't he let her go?! If my husband cheated and wanted out, "Good Riddens, Buddy! Get the hell outta my life!" He couldn't stand the fact that she didn't want him anymore, and he couldn't deal. So he was cheated on and its OK to murder? Here's another question...Ken had Amy booted outta church for being married and with another man at the same time. Anyone know if Tyler was seeing anyone? Ha! I do!! Three different girls to be exact, and they weren't just kissing!! I know their names, but I don't want them to burn, just Tyler. Amy's friends and family have all witnessed him being an absolute jerk, calling Amy names, and even bruised her up. No one that knew Tyler saw anything?? Honestly?? Well I know they did but would just tell Amy she knew how to push his buttons. Wake the hell up!! None of what's going on makes any sense, I don't understand why a murderer is suddenly shown all of this compassion. The justice system and community are completely disgusting.

By the way, my name is Tricia, labeled all my posts from go. That's T..R..I..C..I..A. Yours is...?

Anonymous said...

Amy was not kicked out of Life Church... That would just b absurd.

Anonymous said...

FACT: Amy was TOLD by the Pastor of the LIFE CHURCH that she could not attend anymore with her boyfriend - so that pretty much means she was KICKED OUT. What kind of Pastor says that to someone? I have never heard of anything so UNCHRISTIANLIKE.

FACT: Kenny White called the Pastor and told him Amy was attending with her boyfriend. I guess they didnt want to see their OWN grandson at church .

FACT: Tyler had multiple girlfriends...but where's the ranting and raving on him for that??? Huh?

I have never seen such UNCHRISTIAN like behavior from the Wells Co community, Life Church and the White family & Tyler supporters. You people are in a bubble and need to wake up. Wells CO is full of gossip and judgemental people that just have NO LIFE but to gossip gossip gossip. GOD IS THE ONLY ONE TO JUDGE and Tyler will have to live with his decision he made for the rest of his life...in prison.

And AMEN Tricia on your last comment. IF Amy was such a HORRIBLE person why did Tyler want to keep her around so bad. HUH? Because it was a game to him. He's a narcossist. Wake up. Look up the definition of a narcossist - unable to LOVE. He did terrible things to Amy and also his past girlfriends I mean when are people going to realize who he really is. His mommy an daddy also needs to wake up and quit DEFENDING him. Tyler could never do any wrong in their eyes. I cant wait to face Tyler and his family at the trial.....I am counting down the days.

I mean nothing else to say but that Amy left Tyler for another man who treated her like a HUMAN BEING? Is that all you have? What about your friend or family member who COMMITTED MURDER? What do you say about that?

Oh and AMY never went to prison buddy. PRISON is where your friend Tyler is going to spend most of his life - hopefully all of it if we shall be so lucky.

Anonymous said...

Yes, Tyler did get fired for embezzling. That will all come out eventually...Amy's family and friends just need to be patient. I know its hard but everything will unfold eventually. Tyler's boss will have to admit that he fired him. I believe he's not talking to detectives right now. I wonder why? He is a family friend of the White's. How ironic? Or who knows he could lie like Tyler is to cover his ass...but why was Tyler not going to work the last few days before he murdered Amy but he would still get dressed in a suit? Please someone answer this. It's just very very weird to me. Tyler has always been weird but he is beyond that now. He has the devil in him and he needs help.

Amy said...

You think this blog is full of untruths? Try living in Wells County where hair stylists, cashiers, insurance agents, and even government officials talk about what a nice boy Tyler White is. WAKE UP! Nice boys don't murder women while their toddlers look on. Nice boys don't beat up women. Nice boys don't degrade the mother of their child in public.
If you look on Tyler's facebook page, his note says, "you can't turn a whore into a housewife." If he indeed felt that way, why did he still have so many pictures of Amy on his page? Why wouldn't he want to get ride of those? Answer:because Tyler White was obsessed with Amy Meyer and viewed her as nothing more than a possession. When Amy got tired of being treated like a punching bag (both figuratively and literally), she wanted out. However, being a possession to Tyler, he could not allow that. He decided to drag out the divorce as long as possible and tried to play as many games as possible. Amy was not interested in playing these games; she had built a new life for her and her children. Tyler White murdered Amy Meyer because he hated the fact that she was happy without him. He hated the fact that Amy had found a real man who was going to be an incredible husband and father. Amy was far from perfect; I was right beside her making some of the same mistakes she did, but that does not make us bad people. Becoming a mother changes people, as it did Amy. No matter what she did, she did not deserve to die at the hand of Tyler White. That is the bottom line in this tragedy. Tyler White murdered Amy Meyer in cold blood, and for that he deserves to spend the rest of his life in prison.

Anonymous said...

AMEN.

Anonymous said...

No one said tyler was perfect. And no one I'm sure defends him 100%.

But there's always two sides to a story, and even though it appears post "for tyler" get deleted, both sides deserve to be said. I realize this is a blog for the rememberance of amy, But it appears more of just a hate blog.

If tyler physically abused Amy, why did her own family say she was never physically abused? Is there a single report at all against him phsically abusing her? Maybe she wouldn't want to report it, so where are her family and friends? Why were you allowing her to meet with Tyler alone? A restraining order perhaps?

And no one said Amy was horrible either. Seems to just say a Whore and a liar. Which is absolutely NO excuse for murder, and I'm sure Justice will be served.

But, if Tyler is the horrible person you're all making him out to be, and continue to say he has done this since they began dating, and before the affair, Why did she say yes when he proposed? and why did she say "I Do", TWICE?

They're obviously both mentally unstable people.


And just a side note, if Tyler's story is true, (which no one knows, because no one was there) if a mother pulls a gun on a father/son, that does justify him shooting her infront of the child. Is he going to take the time to remove the child, and allow her to shoot first?

Those same insurance agents who say Tyler White is a good man also allowed Amy White to drop her infant son off with secretaries when she was unemployed and he was trying to support his family.

and really, Facebook? Get a life.

May Amy someday rest in peace, and the family and friends get peace.

Anonymous said...

Can someone give me directions to the wal-mart in Decatur. I cant seem to find it.

Stef said...

Seriously Anonymous murder defender. After reading all your bs I was going to say to state your name... but then I thought I do not care who you are...you mean nothing to me. You are as sick and demented as Tyler. I know you're ashamed to admit who you are. I would be too. And if you do say a name it will probably be an erroneous one so don't even bother. You can live your life defending and supporting a cold blooded murderer - that is fine with me. You have to live with it and maybe you and Tyler can hang out in the "afterlife" I have no tolerance for you degrading someone that is no longer here to defend herself because she was murdered by some narcossistic coward. For you to do that makes you an evil person. How dare you talk shit about Amy when first of all you don't know anything that went on obviously and second of all for you to say anything bad about her at all shows how big and classy of a person you are. Real classy.

You are right about one thing though. Max will know who is mother is. We will make damn sure of that. He is going to know how beautiful, funny, sweet, athletic, caring and how much she loved and adored him. We have proof. I don't know anyone that didn't laugh when they were around Amy. She was the funniest person I know. She loved Max more than anything. I know that because I saw it. I was around it all the time. Were you? And Max will know what his dad did. No way to get around that one.

Anonymous said...

NO NO you don't get it. Amy did NOT pull a gun on Tyler. There is no IF's about it. Can you please tell me why Tyler would be carrying a gun at 8am when he is supposedly playing with his son? Amy was NOT scared of Tyler - just annoyed. She wanted it to all be over with. They were going to court the next day (Wed) for custody and hmm wonder why Tyler chose Tue to murder her? Really IF AMY did pull a gun on him...did you really say that? And one more thing why would Tyler shoot her twice in the chest...and then blow up her cell phone....can you murder defenders please answer that....I really want to know what you come up with.

Cami said...

For all of you who say, "we don't know what happened...we weren't there...," please just consider the following:
1) Murder is never justified, especially in front of you child. Those of us who knew Amy well, know that she DID NOT bring a gun with her that morning. She had EVERYTHING to live for and no reason to wish Tyler dead as she was not a violent and vindictive person. She would NEVER have wanted Max to witness an act of violence. With everything in her favor to win custody, she was waiting for this long drawn out battle to be over. It's so sad that she did not have her day in court to present all of the evidence she had been gathering against Tyler and his psychotic behavior. She was also expecting a child, going to marry the man she loved, and tons of supportive friends and family. She had so much life ahead of her and so much to look forward to, there was NO motive for her to commit an act of violence.
2) Tyler had EVERYTHING to lose. He would NOT have gotten custody of Max as he was unstable and a danger to others. He WAS fired from his job, which will eventually be verified and had no way to support Max. He was also enraged that Amy dared to move on and find true happiness and a good environment in which to raisw her son. So who had the motive?
3) Why did Tyler just happen to have a gun on his person when Amy came to pick up Max? Because he premeditated her murder....that is obvious. Who carries a loaded weapon while holding his son unless he had something planned?
4) Why were no shots fired from the other gun?
5) Why did he shoot her twice....in the chest if it was self defense? One shot would be enough to disable someone. And why the chest and not an arm? Because he was an experienced shooter who had an obsession with guns.
5) Why did he shoot Amy's cell phone? Because it held evidence against him and he knew the cops would seize it as evidence...and he wanted to ensure that nothing could be retrieved.
6) Why several calls to 911, 54 seconds apart..and with conflicting stories. This will be played at the trial.
7) The list could go on and on, but it shouldn't take a rocket scientist to conclude the obvious...Tyler committed murder in the first degree....cold blooded and premeditated. Only, when you tell lie after lie, it becomes problematic as you can't remember what you originally said....since it wasn't a truthful, accurate account of what transpired.
As a forensic chemist and an expert witness in the field of forensics, I know how evidence is suppposed to be collected, processed, and formulated. The facts will come out, the evidence presented, and Tyler will get what he deserves. Justice will be served. I do believe that Wells County is part of Indiana, which is part of the United States of America and that the laws governing our country apply to all of its citizens. I have faith in our judicial system and have seen it work on numerous occasions. The White family is not as powerful as they may think.

Amy was an exceptional person with an infectious personality...always smiling and making others laugh....and who loved her son more than anything. She is missed dearly. May Amy's family and friends finally recieve some peace and justice.

As my faith is strong, I pray for the White family as well...that they may accept what their son has done. One can love a child, brother, etc...but hate their actions, and grieve for their loss while acknowleging the Meyer family loss as well to end additional, unnecessary suffering experienced by the Meyer family. I also pray that Tyler will realize the full magnitude of what he has done, admit his wrongdoing, and allow everyone involved to begin the healing process.

As a very wise man once said, "Mercy is not getting what you deserve. Grace is getting what you don't deserve. And Justice is getting what you deserve." In this case, we all hope for Justice.

Prayers go out to Amy's family and friends, and especially for Maxy....for a life unfairly taken too soon, for healing, and for peace.

Tricia said...

So what if this appears to be a hate blog! A vibrant life was taken from us, if you don't like it, get the hell off of here and go visit Tyler in jail! Amy didn't die in a car accident or natural causes, she was MURDERED! Let us grieve how we want!

Tyler did hit Amy, she had the black eye to prove it. She didn't file a report because she was obviously still with him and I believe scared, and her family was ENRAGED. Because a report wasn't filed, doesn't mean it wasn't real.

Did you seriously tell someone on here to get a life? Funny, your choice of words while choosing to defend someone who took one.

Have you stopped for a second to think about what Amy's parents are going through? Mike lost his only child and only gets to see his grandson for 2.5 hrs on Wednesdays, and every other Sunday. They were all he had! Tyler's parents get to see Max whenever and can visit Tyler. Amy's family has none of these luxuries. We are on here because Amy cannot defend herself and we are now her voice against slanderous disgusting people like you. No one knows what has been going on and are in a complete state of denial because Tyler was obviously a Jekyl and Hyde. That POS is in jail right now because he commited MURDER, if it were truly self-defense, he wouldn't be sitting in there without bail. If he were truly remorseful for taking a life, he wouldn't be whining about his rights and threatening to sue everyone. His family can get every high-powered lawyer in the country but I believe he will rot.

Stacey said...

Its not being a "murder defender", Anyone's post that appears to deffend Tyler, also appears to simply be facts. Cami has a very good comment posted, by focusing mostly on the facts, which is what his trial will focus on. Yes he's been charged and is sitting in jail, but he has not been found guilty. He probably will be, but there's still facts. As the first comment says, you're innocent until proven guilty, statement or no statement.

Tricia said...

People like you are the problem. What people have posted for Tyler appear to simply be facts...Like AMY shaving Max's head?! Like Amy WASN'T booted outta Life church?! Like Tyler WASN'T fired?! Like Tyler was NEVER physically abusive?! No one is listening!!! This brutal act really happened and everyone is still trying to piece together some type of innocence for Tyler because no one wants to believe that a good 'ol boy from Bluffton was capable of this!! I don't care if he's been convicted in the eyes of the law yet, THE FACT HERE IS...he took Amy's life and he needs to pay for that. He's cocky and shows no remorse, and if that makes Amy's loved ones angry, I'd call us absolutely normal. Put your shoe on the other foot today. Go visit Tyler in jail, see how he's doing. Then go visit Amy on 218...dust the snow off her marker, take in the silence and see how you feel.

Tricia said...

Ya know, I know you people aren't to blame. I know you have a right to voice your opinion, but frankly...with the stuff that's being put on here you deserve to be put in place. You deserve to hear it, because even now you still maintain a blind eye to the horrific event that happened, the denial of events that lead up to it, and sadly the slander of the victim afterwards and the injustice her family is having to cope with. I can understand SUPPORTING a family member that commited such an act, but not DEFENDING. Imagine that this event occured in your own family; your daughter, sister or best friend is the victim....and no one believes her. She can't testify to what she went through, now there's only you to do it for her. Think....are you angry? Frustrated? Confused? Now ask one of Amy's friends or family what that feels like in reality; Amy's gone, and that fearful, helpless feeling lingers that maybe no one will have to answer for it. None of what has happened is what Amy would've wanted. Tyler doesn't have to deal with Amy anymore, his family has Max and his followers are convinced he'll walk. We have every right to say what we say on here, and we don't have to be nice. We're not looking for friends, nor looking to replace the one we lost. I have no take-backs on here.

Anonymous said...

Well said Tricia. Tyler's family members & friends do have every right to support him but DEFENDING him and making excuses for what he did is not acceptable. It's wrong and I will also post whatever I want to on this blog. Amy's friends and family members are outraged, ANGRY, and still grieving...while Tyler has gotten everything he set out for so far. Max is with his family, Amy is gone and his mommy daddy and family members believe him along with other Wells Co people... oh and not to mention he has a high profile attorney. Why would he need to hire such an attorney if he was soooo innocent?!!!! He is probably laughing in jail. As a matter of fact he has told people "the bitch" got what she deserved. Really? You people think long and hard at who you are defending? You disgust me.

Anonymous said...

THE REASON Tyler was embezzling was because he knew he needed some MONEY to pay for the attorney he ALREADY knew he was going to try and get. He knew how expensive it was going to be. He was researching good attorneys for months and months...And with the help of Mommy and Daddy he would be able to pay for him. You Tyler defenders honestly DO NOT know the real Tyler. DO research on other murderers out there. They all have a nice side to them because they are putting on a front. That's why you dont THINK he could have ever done this or planned it out.

Anonymous said...

I can't believe you have the audacity to call Amy a whore. At least she was in a monogamous, committed relationship. Tyler was sleeping with three women AT THE SAME TIME. Who's the whore???
When you decide to pursue a career in athletics, namely coaching, it requires that you volunteer your time. Though Amy may not have been getting a paycheck, she was always busy trying to pursue opportunities that would allow her to support her family. She would never just drop Max off if she had nothing else to do; she wanted to spend every second with that sweet little boy. If she wouldn't have dropped Max off at the scheduled times, I'm sure psycho Tyler would have went off the deep end. What she was trying to do was abide by the custody agreement, which is more than anyone can say for Tyler. Why don't you mention how often TYLER'S FAMILY had Max when it was supposed to be Tyler himself caring for Max?

Anonymous said...

I did not call Amy a whore by all means...sorry if you took it that way. I meant Tyler was making himself seem like the saint and wanted everyone to think amy was the cheating whore but WAS not the case at all. People on Tylers side believe his lies and they think they are FACTS

Anonymous said...

My bad. I was addressing the Jan. 6 11:28 pm post! Totally agree with your post!

Anonymous said...

And the reason AMY was dropping off Max at Tyler's work was because that's where Tyler told her to drop him off....I mean he was basically homeless....lived with his brother for awhile..got kicked out of his house TWICE...moved back in with his mommy and daddy for awhile...stayed at a hotel while his house in FW was getting fixed which I think he caught on fire on purpose now that I know what he is capable of! He wanted to make a little money. Then he would lie and say he wasn't working so he could spend time with Max but would really WORK and give max to his parents or some other relative....just so his mother couldnt have him.

Amy's job was BEING a mother...hello? that's a full time job. SHe also coached cross country and was an assistant girls bball coach at St Francis and was also involved with the Boys & Girls Club. Bball was her passion and she loved coaching and being involved with sports. Any other time she would spend time with MAX unless it was Tyler's turn to have Max. And Amy wanted Max to know his father so she was willing to do whatever because she knew it was important to Max. She let Tyler take Max to FLorida for A WEEK with his family because Max would enjoy that time with his family and she knew it was important for Max to get to spend time with them. BUT HEAVEN FORBID Tyler ever allow Amy to take Max away for a week. that just goes to show you HE WASNT LOOKING OUT FOR THE BEST INTEREST OF HIS SON! Just like when he used MAX to get back at his mother and shaved his head to the scalp and left a nasty mohawk. TYLER IS EVIL and HAS THE DEVIL IN HIM. I pray his family and friends realize this. I pray Tyler can show some remorse one day and admit what he did that morning of 10/27/09. Then I WILL HAVE SOME PEACE and will be able to quit hate blogging. Until then I WONT quit. Amy wouldnt quit on me. AND will have even more PEACE when he is in PRISON for the rest of his life.

Anonymous said...

Cami - good point. Amy was NOT a violent person. Tyler WAS. He abused many of his girlfriends. There is proof of that. He also put a sex tape of him and his ex girlfriend in the mailbox of her parent's house when they broke up. CLEARLY THIS IS A PATTERN OF DISTURBED BEHAVIOR. He is demented, cocky, and a piece of shit COWARD who should have took his own life but was too much of a coward and he will deserve everything he gets in prison. I hope he at least makes it in there awhile so he can suffer and think about what he did every single day.

Houston said...

You are innocent until proven guilty!!!!! Its one thing to speculate EXACTLY what happen when you werent even there! How many of us wouldnt say we would do anything to protect our child under any circumstance?? Its amazing to think what secrets we keep from loved ones be it on both sides of this situation, NO ONE knows what Amy or Tyler were thinking at the time of the situation! Judgement is NOT up to us its up to GOD!!!!
Tyler is innocent until proven guilty and that is a FACT!!!!

Amy said...

The only person Max needed protection from was Tyler, the person with a loaded gun in his pants! It is true that you are innocent until proven guilty, but in this case, trial is simply a formality. Based on the evidence so far, Tyler IS GUILTY. And believe me, I lie awake at night wondering what was going through Amy's mind before Tyler executed her front of her little boy. She was scared. She was thinking of her family and friends. She was thinking of her fiance. She was thinking of Max, and she was thinking of her unborn child who would never get a chance to live. Amy had everything to live for. She would have never done anything, such as bring a gun to a custody exchange, that would jeopardize her future. OPEN YOUR EYES TO THE FACTS!

Houston said...

Execution-style murder and execution-style killing are news media buzzwords applied to various acts of criminal murder where the perpetrator kills at close range a conscious victim who is under the complete physical control of the assailant and who has been left with no course of resistance or escape! Maybe you should check your facts! You use words and dont even know the proper definiton! Tyler did not kill Amy execution style if you have read the paper or watched the news, it was reported that Amy DID bring a gun to the custody exchange and infact it was loaded! So once again you have no idea EXACTLY what happen that morning neither do I nor anybody else. So once again STOP judging Tyler, GOD is the only judge!!! he IS innocent until proven guilty!!! Its close minded indealism that makes it hard for a person to get a fair trial. Judgement should be placed on FACTS not the idea of weather the person on trial is a good or bad person in YOUR opinion!

Anonymous said...

Houston - how do you know Amy brought a loaded gun there that morning? You just stated you weren't there as none of us were. What you HEAR on the news and in the papers are not all facts. It's the media and it's also TYLER's STORY and it's what he told police because he is ALIVE to speak. Obviously Max or Amy can't tell us what happened so the only thing you are going off of is what the MURDERER is saying. He is LYING!!!! Are you kidding me? Tyler PLANTED everything. HE HAD 2 GUNS there that morning. He had this planned. HE IS A COLD BLOODED MURDERER and had this planned. He told AMY the day before she was going to get what she deserved. WHAT DO YOU THINK HE MEANT BY THAT?

Tricia said...

Wait until the evidence comes out in trial, buddy. The BULLETS IN AMY'S CHEST had a downward projectory. If he shot her on his knees they would be going up. She had to have been on her knees!NOTHING that he has been saying is true. NOTHING! What do you get out of coming on here? Does it make you feel fuzzy inside to think that you're somehow standing up for your buddy? You are nothing but a pawn in his scheme to get off. You drank his tall glass of bullshit and now you're drunk on it. Tyler is alive!! You didn't have to bury him and a little baby!! We went through that and you don't know what you're talking about.

Stacey said...

How can someone say the only reasons a mother ever handed her son off to the father was because she was looking out for the best interest of her son, then proceed to say how violent he has always been and disturbed he is. What good mother would put their own child in such danger? I'm sure Amy was a good mother, so what does that tell you?

Lets sit back and ask ourselves, how much of what Amy said was fact? Who was drinking the tall glass of bull shit from who?

Anonymous said...

Since, Stacey, you aren't the sharpest tool in the shed, I will explain it to you. Amy never had any reason to believe that Tyler would be violent toward MAX, but Tyler was violent toward AMY. That is why she was trying to divorce him. She was ordered to share custody of Max with Tyler, so she did. Not because she wanted to all the time but because a court ordered her to. If she didn't comply, she would have been held in contempt. We don't just have to take Amy's word that Tyler was a psycho, we WITNESSED it. Clear?

Anonymous said...

Well Stacey - Amy didn't know the pyscho was going to murder her now did she? Nobody did unless he told people. SHE WAS NOT SCARED of him at all. This is the point you people need to get. She was annoyed not scared!!

She didn't know how violent he could get, obviously, nobody did because you people still believe his bullshit. She has never shot a gun in her life, never owned one and wouldnt even know how to use one. If you know Amy you would laugh at the thought of her with a gun. She was just waiting for her day in court and the divorce to be final. she figured she could deal with Tyler's bs until then so she just ignored his name calling the past year because it became routine. He called her a whore everyday (and sometimes in front of max) and her ignoring this MADE HIM FURIOUS....probably even more furious than anything because he knew it didnt bother her. His rage has been building up for over a year.

She was letting Tyler see Max because she wanted Max to know his family and see his dad, grandparents and uncle because she would want the same in return. This is what any normal human being would do. Instead Tyler continued to be his normal self and NEVER cooperate with their schedule of Max. He refused to let Amy take him on vacation even though Amy let Max go to Fla with Tyler's family. This went on for over a year! I just dont understand if Tyler was seeing other woman - why he felt the need to make Amy's live a living hell because she moved on. Actually I do know because he could not STAND the thought of Amy happy and being successful in life. HOW DO YOU HAVE THAT MUCH HATE FOR SOMEONE?! That's why you know he is a cold blooded murderer.

Yes Amy made a mistake and married him but she accepted that and moved on with her life. People make mistakes in life BUT COLD BLOODED MURDER IS NEVER JUSTIFIED...and I will NEVER let this rest until Tyler and his family and friends admit the truth and let us have PEACE and will never forgive Tyler until he shows remorse.

ONCE AGAIN AMY WAS NOT SCARED OF TYLER. That was her personality. She just wasnt afraid of anything. SHE WAS JUST SO ANNOYED with him that he always had to be so difficult.

Anonymous said...

Can anyone of you Tyler supporters answer why TYLER would have shot Amy's cell phone to pieces?? I'm curious as to what you might say to that? This is getting interesting?

Anonymous said...

That's just it...if Tyler was telling the truth and he really shot and killed Amy in self defense then why the HELL is he not showing any remorse. HUH? Instead he tells people the bitch got what she deserved and walks around smirking. HELLO? WAKE up people. This just isnt adding up. It just gets more and more humerous to hear you crazy people talk. For having this planned out Tyler did make a few too many mistakes. Tyler White committed premeditated first degree murder. He wanted Amy dead. You guys can tell yourself he is innocent until proven guilty all you want but we know the truth. We know what Tyler did and justice will be served...and when that happens I will not say I told you so because I will be at peace.

Anonymous said...

Hey last comment how do you know Tyler isnt showing any remorse??? How do you know that he is "walking" around telling people "the bitch got what she deserved" and smirking??? SERIOUSLY???? you kidding me??? Last time I checked Tyler was locked up in jail!!!!! how do YOU know what facial expressions he is making and what he is saying!?!?!? Are you an employee of the jail or something??? GOD...let me say it AGAIN GOD is in charge of judging people NOT YOU!!! He is innocent until proven guilty!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Um well he's telling the sheriff that works at the jail that! It's a small community buddy. The word gets out. And yes GOD is the one to judge. Just remember that. He will judge Tyler.

Anonymous said...

Tyler is so cocky he's even acting like it in jail. That's HOW I KNOW he's not showing any remorse. And I know because I do work at the jail.

Anonymous said...

I wrote to you "ummm" poster but apparantly my post got erased! Ironic huh!??!? TWICE...WOW!! ONCE again as I stated, GOD and ONLY GOD is the judge of Tyler not YOU!!! YOU make it appear that YOU need to take a GOOD hard look in the mirror at yourself!! YOU were not there the DAY and TIME this tragedy occured! YET you sit around and act like YOU were sitting in the garage when it happened!!!! I realize its a small town and I thank god everyday I got of it a long time ago! Although I got out and moved away to a much bigger city I also am not an idiot!!!! I still realize the small town ppl have nothing better than to sit around and gosssip and speculate on what "they" think happened that morning! Im pretty darn SURE the sheriff in Wells county
is ALOT smarter than YOU and wouldnt sit around and talk about what he has " heard" Tyler saying according to YOU!!!! if so...pretty sure he wouldnt be the sheriff of Wells County DUH!!!! As for the person claiming to work at the jail! YOU should be ASHAMED of YOURSELF!!! WOW!!! Actually you shoud be fired!!! for sitting and posting on a website about a man who is sitting in jail awaiting a trial for a situation YOU werent even a part of !!!! and for ppl who get put in HIS situation your ass has a job and serioulsy you post shit like " I work at the jail and he is cocky " SEROIOUSLY!??!!? YOU are a LOW individual!!! Its so sad to me!!! You ppl need to look in the mirror at your own self before you are talking shit about Tyler!!! Its sooooooooo rediculous!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

No one should EVER be ashamed for telling the truth. Let's pray that Tyler does someday.

Dan said...

A Comment was removed for offensive language. Defending Mr. White by insulting others and calling names just seems to support the opinions of Amy Meyer's friends and family.

Dan said...

For those who say, "God is the judge," I think all would agree. Unfortunately, Man has to keep order until He returns or until we die and face that judgment. The verse, "Judge not lest ye be judged" doesn't have anything to do with murder and has everything to do with not being a hypocrite.

Anonymous said...

Whoever you are that keeps defending Tyler must obviously not live around here anymore (at least that's what you stated) so you have no idea what went on this past year. And now Amy is buried on 218. I am angry but not at GOD. I am furious with Tyler and that will never change for as long as I live. Self defense or not he took a life. He didn't have to shoot her twice in the chest and kill her...but HE WANTED her dead. I don't think it takes a rocket scientist to figure this all out. He has the motive. Amy had absolutely no motive and no violent past. And this is why we are all outraged, sad, angry and still grieving. What are you grieving over? That your friend is in jail? Please until you lose a close friend or family member to a murderer please stay off this blog unless you can show some compassion for the Meyer family. Think of her parents, her sister, her grandparents, her friends. For you to sit here and defend Tyler is really pathetic. You have every right to support him because he is obviously a relative or friend but that doesnt mean you have to believe what he's saying. Take a look at the facts. Put it all in perspective. Why would he have to shoot her TWICE in the chest to just disable her so she couldn't move, why would he blow up her cell phone, why would he change his story multiple times? Why would he hire such a high profile attorney who defends guilty professional athletes like Mike Tyson. Why would he call 911 twice? Why would he embezzle money at his job? And these are all facts. Just think about the facts. Have you talked to Tyler since this has happened? If you haven't why dont you and see how he's acting. It's obvious. He is walking around telling people he is getting out in April.

And you are right GOD is the only one to judge BUT I can say - we can all say that we want Tyler to suffer in prison for the rest of his life because he killed Amy. That is a fact. A life for a life. God didn't want this to happen. He didn't intend for this to happen. People make their own decisions in life and Tyler will fortunately have to pay for his. Remember that.

Anonymous said...

I was not defending Tyler. Working in a jail is similar to working in a hospital or in social work. There are privileges that come with those careers, and also laws. Someone who would discover something about a patient or client would not be obligated to post that information for the world to see. Obviously, they are a liar was my point. and If they are not lying, then they are what was previously stated.

Anonymous said...

In a small community the word gets out. People tell things that they aren't supposed to. Believe it or not that's what the sheriff said.

Anonymous said...

Everyone keeps saying ONLY GOD IS TO JUDGE towards Tyler... Do you not suppose God was judging Amy while she attended marriage counseling with her husband then attended to her boyfriend in the evening? I doubt the counselor suggested that. Or had a HUSBAND and FIANCE at the same time,Could a "fiance" title not wait until a divorce at the least? I think we could classify anyone that agrees this doesn't look "bad" as crazy.

And don't waste your time with the come back that she was moving on and finally happy, How many guys had she been engaged to? They were all finally moving on and happy situations.

None of these are excuses for her life being taken. She did not deserve to die. But lets realize that saying tyler is a liar because amy didn't bring a gun just because you know she didn't, is no different than people that say Tyler is not a murderer because they know he isn't. Get it? Stop saying "HELLO!!" and "WAKE UP!!" then follow it with your opinion. Even when a jury decides what his sentence will be, it does not mean that is what happened, whichever way it goes. This is an extremely hard & difficult time for so many loved ones. Likely to be the most tragic incident any will have to be involved in. Stop pointing fingers, possibly grow up, and attempt to be somewhat mature about the situation. Realize you can't always be right & sometimes people your close to let you down. Both "sides".

Anonymous said...

If it is ok for you to reveal this information, and it did happen, then why be anonymous?

Anonymous said...

If you truly believe that Amy's actions do not justify her killing, then why do you keep bringing them up? The only reason Tyler was still legally Amy's husband was because he wouldn't let her go! You do not know for a fact that Amy was seeing someone while she and Tyler were getting counseling;that's probably just what Tyler told you. Perhaps you should take your own advice. It takes a very small person to speak such ill of the dead. Amy was not crazy, but Tyler certainly is.

Anonymous said...

Amy told multiple people that, there was nothing wrong with it because it's what made her happy. But that you assume Tyler did shows you agree its not right. You said Tyler was the one putting off the divorce, and im sure there's reason after reason you believe this, but I will add Amy must have told you those? And maybe not, maybe Tyler did. Everyone can go back and fourth all day about what they heard, know, and think. I'm not here to argue. Both individuals had chances to prevent the morning of October 27th. She was a wonderful, amazing person and i will continue to pray for everyone that knew her.. Lets not be too quick to put anything past either of them. They both had issues. The actions of Amy that aren't spoken, or are and defended, prove it.

May she someday get peace, along with all of her loved ones hurting so much.

Anonymous said...

Still...no one seems to get the point. Murder is never justified. And also no one seems to answer to the fact that Amy's cell phone was blown up and why he shot her twice in the chest. Seems everyone is ignoring those obvious facts because they can't seem to understand why he would do that because they think poor Tyler is so innocent. I will never feel sorry for that pos shit coward...ever. I pray he can one day admit the truth.

Tricia said...

I'm confused. You come on here and basically call Meyer a liar and and a tramp, then go on to say that she was a wonderful, amazing person and you hope she has peace?! Well which is it? If you KNEW her to be a wonderful, amazing person what does that tell us about you, to come on here and insult her when she can no longer defend herself? Tyler can, and I doubt his errogance needs any assistance. Stop salting our wounds and stay off of here.

Cami said...

It seems as though everyone would like to say that you are innocent until proven guilty...although this only comes from the Tyler supporters-supporters who have been judging Amy ever since day one and continue to judge her on this blog. She cannot defend herself and for those of you who are not intimate with the situation, I would ask you to really THINK about what you are saying.

Just because Amy made mistakes DOES NOT JUSTIFY her being murdered! And yes, she was MURDERED because Tyler admitted to shooting her! It doesn't really matter what poor excuses he gives for his actions, the fact remains that Amy is gone. A mother was taken from her child. Don't any of you Tyler supporters see the value of Amy's life? What do you think a life is worth? Should it be based on past mistakes? Does it make it easier for you all to justify her murder if you delude yourselves into thinking that her life was worth less because she made some bad choices? Well, those of us who loved her saw the tremendous value of her life, which was so unjustly and violently taken.

Amy never said she was perfect and we are not making those claims either, but NO ONE is perfect. However, it seems that those who live in glass houses like to cast the first stones. You all say to let God be the judge; however, you are judging Amy and basically saying that she got what she deserved. Shame on all of you!

To all of those who believe Tyler and participate in Amy bashing, I hope you never face the unspeakable pain of losing a loved one to violence and then, when trying to grieve, have others point out all of your loved one's mistakes to justify their murder. That to me, is the biggest injustice of all. You should all be ashamed of yourselves.

Justice will eventually be served, and hopefully, no grace or mercy will be shown to Tyler since none has been shown to Amy or her friends and family!

Anonymous said...

What is really disturbing is that none of Tyler's close friends and family will talk to the investigators...and if they do talk, are not saying much. Why is this? Because they all knew how Tyler was and are afraid that by speaking the truth, they will help put Tyler away where he belongs. I'm not really sure why they would want to help Tyler and spit on the justice system, but there must be some reason. Perhaps they knew something and did nothing..and now feel guilty and embarrased for allowing this to happen?

Why did he get kicked out of his sister-in-law and brother's house several times? Why did the second gun belong to Tyler's best friend? And why won't his ex-boss who fired him talk to police? Let's just say that obstruction of justice, interfering with a police investigation, evidence tampering, and perjury are all felonies and punishable by prison time. Hope all of you have good attorneys...you will need them.

Anonymous said...

You Tyler defenders are sure quick to judge Amy but yet you say God is to judge. I am praying for Tyler... that he can admit what he did that morning. He is the only ONE that can tell us what happened the morning of 10/27/09. He could help give Amy's family and friends some kind of peace and then he can begin the healing process and ask for forgiveness. His family and friends also need to step up and talk. And if he would admit what he did - it would finally shut you people up.

Nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes. Divorces happen, people marry the wrong person, people marry too young but when this does happen normal people just MOVE ON with their life. They get over it. Accept it. And sure it will hurt for awhile. It will hurt a lot... but everyone goes through break ups. I know tons of people that have went through divorces with children involved and they are all still living and are the happiest they have ever been now. Only pyschotic & narcissistic people can't let things go. People like Ted Bundy and OJ Simpson. Both of these 2 people had vengeful anger triggered by a feeling of humiliation. These people are not normal people. You people need to understand that. Tyler could have accepted that Amy was moving on, going to be happy and start a life with a new man. Tyler could have done the same and he could have been CIVIL to Amy for the SAKE OF MAX!!!! Amy tried to. But no he could not do that. He had to much hate towards her that he couldn't let go. Hate that was building up. He called her a whore everyday. He told her she was going to get what she deserved...once again everyday. She recorded this on her cell phone. THATS WHY HE BLEW IT UP PEOPLE. Once again why would he blow her cell up. NO one has answered that simple question... And once again why did he shoot her twice in the chest and murder her if it was in self defense? HE could have easily shot her in the leg or something and called the police. BUT NO HE WANTED AMY MEYER DEAD. That is a fact. He is a narcossist and a coward who couldnt get over the anger and humiliation of Amy leaving him....so he ended it in cold blooded premediated murder just like Ted Bundy and OJ Simpson.

Anonymous said...

What makes you think he couldn't let her go? He tried saving his marraige, any normal person would. Because in some lives divorce isn't looked at as "it happens", he wasn't raised thinking it was a regular part of life. To some people marraige actually means something. Who do you think filed for the divorce?ask yourself what other lies you believe.

Anonymous said...

In some lives, physical and verbal abuse aren't seen as things "a wife should just put up with." In some lives, calling your wife a cunt, a stupid bitch, etc. aren't seen as an effort to save your marriage.Don't even pretend Tyler had any interest in saving their relationship. He was more interested in dreaming up ways to hurt Amy. It doesn't really matter who filed for divorce. If Tyler wanted out, then why didn't he just sign the papers and be done with it already? To some people, marriage is a relationship in which a man and woman love and respect one another. Amy and Tyler obviously didn't have this.Sorry to burst your bubble, but divorce is the best option in some cases. And don't even bother with your lies comment because everyone knows there's only one person involved who's having trouble telling the truth, and that's Tyler.

Anonymous said...

LIKE I SAID BEFORE and will say it again - people make mistakes. NOBODY IS PERFECT! There are certain things that would justify a divorce - perhaps abuse. God forgives as long as you seek him and ask for forgiveness. That is the key. WHY live your life miserable if you can end an abusive marriage?

Amy had told Tyler she was miserable for a long time and he did NOTHING to help it. He ignored it. That shows you how much he cared. When she finally did leave him he was HUMILIATED. It wasn't that he thought divorce was so wrong...obviously because he can commit murder. She was happy with someone else.

And I DONT come from a family of divorce but I would support anyone that wanted a divorce if their spouse was verbally and physically abusive!

And I didnt mean he wouldnt let HER Go...I meant he wouldnt let IT go...the situation that she was happy with someone else. It made him furious and he just couldnt stand the thought of it and move on with his girlfriends that he had. He could have acted CIVIL to Amy and NOT called her name after name after name after name...he could have eventually been her friend if that was possible. You people dont get it!!! He could have cooperated with the arrangement they had for MAX but NO he continued to be difficult.

And still no answer on why he blew up her cell and shot her twice in the chest?????

Houston said...

I am sorry I didn't have enough time to read all the ignorance, and yes you got me on using the wrong word that's not ignorance that's just rushed, but I didn't come to anyone's side. I didn't say who was right or wrong. I am just making the point that there are always two sides to a story and all I keep seeing is everyone jumping to conclusions based on the like or dislike for one side of the story. Stop sitting around all day bad mouthing someone for something, that you have NO idea whether or not, they actually did or didn't do. And as far as all of you anonymous opinions that would like to state names at least have the manners to address a person to whom you do not know with your own name. It keeps one from calling you out of your name. For example: "Coward". If you are going to give your opinion give your name unless you don't want your opinion to mean anything. That's why you register to vote. It makes your vote count. I only bring this up because of people that have the nerv to say my name and give "personal opinions". As in the case of the news not always being right you have a point. But in this case I think that they are more likely to be less biased than yourself. Don't judge les you be jugded yourself. About the "coward" thing, I am not calling you a coward. I am just saying you dont have manners.

Anonymous said...

People are not justifying Amy's death by pointing fingers at her past mistakes, they are justifying Amy's death by pointing fingers at the mistakes she made all the way up until her death. Her past mistakes show Tyler is not the only crazy one. Taking someone's life to save your own does justify murder. Whether you want to believe it or not, shooting someone out of self defense and shooting someone because you're a cold blooded murderer, I don't care how many shots are taken, are completely different. To say he is carefree and getting everything he wants is beyond ridiculous. HE IS IN JAIL. Anyone that knows Tyler knows he would much rather be dealing with Amy, and seeing his son, than be in jail and have Amy gone. I'm positive more than half, if not every single person that is defending Tyler knew for a fact she did not have a gun, they would not be supporting him. At least, I would not. Continue to believe murder is never justified, but I'm sure if someone was pointing a gun at you, your opinion would change.

Anonymous said...

What you don't get is that Tyler would RATHER be sitting in jail than see Amy happy with another man & child because that's what he chose to do. He chose to murder her. And I do know Tyler and God only knows if he is regretting it now but this is what he CHOSE to do and will have to pay for it.

And still no one seems to answer the simple question. Why would Tyler blow her cell phone up? And another simple question? Why would Tyler happen to have a gun on him that morning? And one more for you. Why would he shoot her twice in the chest to make sure she dies.

And the 2nd gun belonged to Tyler's best friend. I dont care how many freaking lies Tyler is going to continue to tell. The evidence is there. It's obvious.

If someone that didn't know either of them went over this story and read all the facts...it wouldn't take them but a minute to figure out who is guilty.

Amy said...

Houston, don't come on here and talk about manners when people continue to slander our dead friend! We will never stop advocating for Amy's rights as the victim in this case, as she cannot speak for herself.
2:53 p.m., How dare you. Amy's death could NEVER be justified! The fact that you even had the gall to come on here and write that sickens me. There is NO REASON to believe that Amy brought a gun that day, other than the fact that Tyler said she did. He had ample opportunity to stage the scene, and he has changed his story three times!!!There is no reason to believe a word that comes out of his mouth. Do you really expect everyone to believe that a man who has been trained by the military had no other course of action than deadly force to protect himself from a 120 lb. woman who didn't have a weapon? Do you even hear how asinine that sounds? Many a murder case are won on circumstantial evidence, and lucky for Amy, this case is full of hard evidence and circumstantial evidence in her favor. Tyler is in jail, and he will remain there for a long time, but it could be worse. Think of where Amy is right now. She will be vindicated.

Tricia said...

Wow. For a person to come on here and actually say that Amy's death is justified...is just extremely cruel and unconceivable. Obviously you are still stuck in Tyler's cloud of lies and can't see through to the reality of the situation. Have you taken a good look at the timing of what he says happened? You believe that Amy had a gun that morning; even though it belongs to Tyler's friend. How did Amy get it? When did she get it? Why seek out Tyler's friend and steal from him when she could just get one permitted to herself? She didn't want one, nor did she think she needed one. If she had him on his knees at gunpoint, and only then did he expose his weapon, shooting her immediately, at what point did he fire shots outside and decimate her phone? Did he do this after he killed her? If he did it before, it really wouldn't support a self-defense would it, meaning he was destroying her ability to call for help, AND the only shots fired were from his gun. If he did it after, it just absolutely makes no sense why. Why aren't you answering any of these questions, or have you even asked them yourself? You obviously believe his story, why won't you come on here and explain why you do? Because he said so and that's it? You come on here and say vicious, cruel things that hurt people but your only defense is simply the empty word, DEFENSE?

Anonymous said...

The people that believe Tyler's lies won't answer these questions because they have NO idea how to answer them.
They have YET to ever say why he would BLOW up Amy's cell phone, why he would have a gun on him that morning, why he would shoot her in the chest TWICE to make sure she was dead and have failed to mention that the 2nd gun belonged to Tyler's best friend.

Anonymous said...

There are just too many holes and inconsistencies in Tyler's story (stories, rather) to hold any water. When someone is trying to take your life or harm your children, I believe murder is justified...but those don't apply here. Killing in self-defense = killing. Killing a defenseless person = murder. I believe in the difference. I don't understand why you come on here trying to "give the other side" when there's nothing behind it! You want us to believe Tyler's stories, but have nothing to convince us with! Instead, you come on here trashing Amy's life, when knowing Tyler, obviously took no chance to know Amy. How unfortunate and sad. Yet, how sickening that you berate one's life that's over, and belittle what short life they had.

Anonymous said...

You Tyler defenders/supporters are absolutely pathetic. You hear in the news, read in the paper one of the things that Tyler has stated (and that's why its in the news)is that Amy brought a gun that morning and you automatically BELIEVE IT??? Without any evidence to back it up?? Are you kidding me??? He is alive to speak and of course he's going to say that because he doesnt want to spend his life in prison...and you have the audacity to berate Amy on here. Once again how pathetic.

Anonymous said...

I cannot WAIT until the month of April. Hold on, they'll probably get a continuance and push it to a later date. They would do this for more time to build his case, I bet. Wait a second, why would they need to build his case if he's solid on what happened and he was defending himself? Hmmm....

Houston said...

Amy don't come on here and say my name and then make comments about things I didn't even say. Not once did I say that Amy's murder is justified. Nor did I slander her name in any way. I simply put it to the people, on both sides, that when you leave comments you should think about having a bit of manners and thinking about everyone's feelings. You think one thing and other people think others. Most of the people on here can put aside there own feelings and looks at the facts of the case as is or even how they might come out in the end. That's why they don't put people close to the victum on the case as a juror. Judgements are clouded by personal feelings for the victum or victums. All I did is comment about someone's choice of wording. I gave the definition of the word execution. It was not an execution. And whether or not you way 9lbs or 350lbs it takes minimal amounts of pressure to discharge a weapon, in this case a gun. Military training doesn't teach you to stop a bullet. It teaches you to react to a situation quickly and not always with the best results. So if you want to blame military training look into it first. Stop taking the words as you want them and running what other people say together. Look at what I say and take the words for the definition. I have no hidden meaning. There are two sides to every story and I haven't picked any sides. I am the only one on here who hasn't because not all the facts have been presented. Educate yourself before you make yourself look foolish. Just take into mind the feelings of others and that you don't know everything. Nor do I but I don't go around twisting words or assuming that a person means one thing when there words say another. That's what I was talking about is manners. Find them, use them, and people will follow your lead. An eye for and eye leads the world blind and the blind leading the blind leads to nowhere.

Tricia said...

I believe she was referring to you and the person that posted nonsense after you. As far as weight and discharging a weapon, if you look back to her post she stated that Amy was unarmed, as those of us know her know that to be true. We're not idiots, we know about all the little common sense facts that you stated. We just know that none of them pertain to this case. You're so quick to try to enlighten others to Tyler's side, but NO ONE has even attempted to answer the questions we have asked previously. If you're not bias like you claim, how about giving merit to the points we make?

Amy said...

I look foolish? Perhaps you should read all the comments before making your own. If you would do that, you would notice that I was not addressing you when I made the comment about Amy's murder being "justified". That comment was directed at the person who commented at 2:53 p.m. Not you. Secondly, Amy's death was an exection. She was unarmed, on her knees, and shot at close range. Execution. I realize you do not have all the facts, but you will in April. And to say that I blame military training, who's twisting words now??? I have immediate family in the military, and I would never do such a thing.My point was that Tyler had training to deal with deadly situations. With Amy being unarmed, he had other options besides deadly force. I have never claimed to know everything, but if after looking at the information on this blog, you can't come to the obvious conclusion that Amy Meyer was murdered, you are the one who's foolish. The rest of your comment is nothing but rambling and common sense information, so I won't even bother addressing that mess.

Houston said...

I was the only name you use so the fact that you just post a time wasn't something I really took as you where talking to another individual. May fault for assuming that by using my name you where talking to me. Try some seperation. I haven't once said I was on Tyler's side so stop saying and read my words and stop being ignorant. I said stop assuming things. People that know her know this to be true? Are you joking me? Just because you think you know a person doesn't make a situation end the way you think it did even though you are not there. Please stop thinking I am on a side just because I don't pick yours. Get over yourself. I knew here so I know she didn't do that. And since when was she on her knees when she died? Don't remember that fact being reported by people that investigated the scene of the crime. But then again you know her so maybe she was? I can't even act like I am not upset anymore. And I am not even upset of the death or coviction of a man before his trial by people that where not even there. I am upset because of the people that can't read. READ ME NOW. I AM NOT PICKING SIDES. JUST HAVE MANNERS AND RESPECT PEOPLE WHETHER YOU AGREE OR NOT. And I didn't say you where foolish. Learn to read. I said you where going to look foolish. Case and point!

Houston said...

Sorry for the typeo's. I was typing fast.

Houston said...

Putting down a time doesn't let people know anything except you put down a time. Don't assume we know what are thinking when we read.

Amy said...

Seriously, can you read??? 2:53 was an anonymous post, so I can't exactly address them by name, can I? Get a clue.

Houston said...

Revealed to the family and no one else? Seems odd. Is there anywhere I could read this for myself? You'll excuse me if I don't believe someonet that goes of knowing someone and not the situation they where in at the time. And I have all the right in the world when you bad mouth other people for there opinion. And if I wasn't talking to you in the first place then you stating my name made you and me have a conversation. Keep my name out of your mouth and I'll keep your name out of mine. I don't know you and I don't care. I just care that people have no manners to people with opinions different from there own. And for some weird reason I got pulled into some murder debate. A friend was basicly yelled at because of there opinion and I added the opinion that there are too sides and just not to be mean. But small minded people had to take it another place. Whatever man... you can have your page back. Just try and do good things with it and not be a little person.

Amy said...

I realize your panties are in a twist because of the name thing, so I apologize for that. However, if that is your opinion, and you're not ashamed of it, why are you using a pseudonym? I engaged in this banter with you because you claimed Tyler was protecting his child. That is simply not the case and was an ignorant comment, especially on a blog that is for Meyer.
Perhaps the autopsy results are available to the public. I do not know. I spoke with an immediate family member, so that is how I have that information.
You are so quick to jump to the defense of a friend on a blog, yet you claim to know Amy and have not come to her defense, only Tyler's. That speaks volumes.

Anonymous said...

Tyler White murdered Amy Meyer. He had it planned. He is a cold blooded murderer and one sick individual. And he would rather be sitting in jail right now than see Amy happy. What do you people not get about this? Why aren't you answering any of the questions Amy's side has asked? Because you don't know do you? The only thing you are going on is that Tyler said Amy brought a gun, huh? Is that the only thing? He is lying because he doesn't want to go to prison for his entire life. Of course he's going to say that. He thinks he's going to get off.

Tricia said...

I'm sure both families attorneys were given autopsy reports, since this is a CRIMINAL case, but not sure; seeing how we've never had a family member/friend murdered before, we're not quite sure how it all works. I'm also guessing that if Tyler's family saw it, its not something that they want to reveal to the public. It also reveals more horrific information, but I will not disclose it for the family's sake...and for the trial. Again, the insanity of expecting respect and fairness from the family and friends of a murdered person is mind-boggling! Sadly, we have had to become advocates for Amy, defending the honor of her precious life, and fighting to make sure her murderer is brought to justice; we will not stop, we will see it through. The fact your friend was whining because they were yelled at is pathetic. We are angry, WE have every right, and don't expect any less. No one will address any of the points we make or any questions that we ask. I honestly believe its because no one wants to have that revelation; then everyone would know they knew a person that was crazy enough to commit such an evil act. Eventually, you will all have to come to that point, whether its because of us or during the trial...because it IS reality.

Anonymous said...

You are so right Tricia. I am sure that deep down Tyler's friends and family know the reality of the situation, that Tyler murdered Amy.This much is obvious just from the information presented. However, I am sure that it is a scary thing to come to the realization that you know someone who is capable of murder. We should all pray that they are able to do this and give the Meyer family the peace and respect that they deserve.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure it's very hard for Tyler's family to admit that their son, brother or nephew is a cold blooded murderer but at some point they need to accept it. It's not who they thought they raised but they need to realize who he is now, who he has become. They can't possibly believe him deep down. Sometimes people aren't who you think they are.

Cami said...

Houston, we have a problem and it seems to be you and the other Tyler defenders. You infer that you are the only one on this blog who is not biased and who has a rational opinion; however, you continue to suggest that Tyler is innocent. From all of your posts, it seems that you ARE defending Tyler. You say that we weren't there so we don't know what really happened...we only THINK we know because we knew Amy. Unfortunately, Tyler was there on the morning of October 27. Sadly, he shot Amy twice in the chest and then shot her cell phone, planted evidence, and the list goes on. Tyler knows what he did that morning and hopefully one day, he will confess so that everyone can begin to heal.

You also want people to respect others, their opinion, and to read, yet you continue to tell us to "wake up" as if we were in some kind of dream world and that we don't have the right to grieve over Amy's murder. You even said yourself that you are no longer upset by a death or by someone convicted before his trial. I think that YOU should not only READ, but UNDERSTAND what you are reading! You also say that you are not aware of certain information recently posted regarding Amy's death, but find it odd that her family would know such details while others such as yourself do not have the same access. Let me give you a lesson in the prosecution of a crime. As a Forensic Chemist who has been employed as such for 12 years, testifying in both Federal and State courts throughout the country as an expert witness, I consider myself adequately informed and well-equipped to speak on this subject. The prosecution would never provide sensitive information surrounding a crime to the general public. It would be detrimental to their case to do so. The prosecution does provide details to family members of the victim as they have a vested interest in the prosecution and outcome of the trial. If Amy were alive, she would be sitting at the prosecution's table as the star witness and able to tell her story, but sadly, she is not; therefore, her family will act on her behalf. The defense can file a motion for discovery and the prosecution will provide them with the autopsy reports, other forensic evidence, witness lists, etc...This is so the defense can adequately prepare their case. However, the prosecution is not required to produce the totality of evidence as it may affect their ability to effectively prosecute the case. They will "save some punches" for the trial, so to speak. What Tyler and many of his defenders fail to realize is that science can speak when the victim cannot. Unfortunately for Tyler, he didn't anticipate, nor probably even considered the value of forensic evidence. This is not CSI...it is reality and the evidence is strong. I firmly believe that justice will be served and that Tyler will spend a large portion of his life, hopefully, the remainder of his life, behind bars. If you want respect, give it to Amy's family and friends. I hope you never have to experience what we have...the murder of a loved one only to have someone tell you to "WAKE UP." It is a tragedy that Amy will NEVER WAKE UP. And oh how you don't realize that those of us who loved Amy, wish we COULD wake up from this nightmare as if it never happened.

TrIcia said...

Beautiful, Cami. So heartbreakingly true.

Anonymous said...

And for the record Houston - It was an execution. That's what you call it when a person commits premeditated cold blooded murder.

And you have yet to answer any of the questions Amy's side has asked. You are going off of 1 thing and 1 thing only... which is Tyler claims Amy brought a gun. How childish & hypocritical of you to say WE are 1 sided. It looks like you are 1 sided also - the side with the idiots and the murderer.

Anonymous said...

Really Tyler defenders? Go back to the police report and see what Tyler reported that morning. He said the dispute started because he wanted 30 more min of Max's time and then somehow TYLER ended up on his knees because Amy pulled a gun?? And then Tyler pulled out his gun that he happened to have on him....and then shot her TWICe in the chest? And then blew up her cell phone. Really? Are you kidding me? Seriously only a moron would believe that. Houston - that includes you. if you seriously believe that than you are one narrow minded individual. I guess if you are Tyler's friend I would expect nothing less. How pathetic that you believe a cold blooded murderer.

Jeremy said...

Houston is not Jeremy. This is Jeremy and I find this blog very unprofessional on both sides. Its sad and unfortuntate that individuals from both families (friends) are using the life of Amy and Tyler to throw stones at each other. If Tyler committed murder, I hope that he would come out and confess before the trial so that Amy's family does not have to endure anymore pain.

Anonymous said...

Dan:

God set aside 10 commandments. There is no distinction from any of them. They are all wrong in his eyes. I understand you want to be compassionate, but their is no difference between Murder and Adultry in God's eyes. You judge them the way you want, but God will judge them as he had Moses write them. Maybe they will both get life, one for Murder and the other for Adultry. No disrespect on either end.

Dan said...

"There is no difference between Murder and Adultery in God's eyes."

Perhaps not, I don't pretend to know how God thinks, only what my Church teaches. I assume the same it true of you. Christians have differing views about marriage, divorce, adultery, living in sin, homosexuality and the like.

I see less diversity of opinion among Christians regarding murder.

God may not see a difference, but as a mortal I can't help but notice that unlike other sinners a murderer puts himself in God's place, deciding for himself who should live and who should die for whatever perceived sins. A murderer doesn't love his neighbor, but imposes his hatred upon his neighbor.

Anonymous said...

The reason you see less diversity is that society and modern day christians have said Adultry is okay. The problem is that in the end God is the judge. It speaks it in Leviticus 20:10. If you are a true christian based upon God's biblical principles then you know the real truth whether you chose to admit it or not. This blog is shameful, it should have stopped a long time ago.

Anonymous said...

Further, if Christians have differing views about marriage, divorce, adultery, living in sin, homosexuality and the like. Then maybe they should spend more time studying God's word and praying. There is no confusion and anyone who pretends or preaches that there is; is a false prophet.

Dan said...

"If you are a true christian"

Ah yes, if I were a "true" Christian I would agree with you completely, wouldn't I. How about we just agree that I'll take care of the speck in my own eye and you take the log out of yours.

I'm not at all bothered that you want to live a Leviticus life. I'll just proceed along my Catholic path. Good luck with your judgment.

Anonymous said...

I will not stoop to your level Dan. I don't know who you are and I am not an advocate for either of these individuals that you all are talking about. I am simply reading posts about Christianity and some merely have things a little confused to include yourself. Maybe when all the emotion rolls over true Christians on both sides will rise to the table, hold hands and pray.

Anonymous said...

I think the one who is confused is you. For you to think that you know everything about Christianity is rather presumptuous. The Bible itself CAN BE interpreted in many ways. We have many sects of Chrisitianity to prove this, each thinking that it has the correct interpretation. If we were to follow the Bible literally in all circumstances, we would have to put the majority of the population to death. A "true" Christian like yourself should be more accepting of others' beliefs. This blog is not about religion. It is about a heinous act that took the life of a vibrant young woman, and it's about the sickening way she has been attacked. We seek nothing more than truth and justice for her.

Anonymous said...

Please tell me what Im confused about? You say this isnt about Christianity, but there are several comments from both sides in reference to God and the Bible. While there are many denominations of faith, there is one thing that doesn't change and that is the 10 Commandments. I don't care what denomination you are. The point is, if you don't keep the 10 Commandments you are playing with fire.

Anonymous said...

Obviously you are on Tyler's side so please don't preach to me about Bible verses and Christianity but rather practice what you preach. God is the judge. God will judge Tyler and no ONE knows how he will because WE DONT KNOW.

And you must be one narrow minded and sheltered person to think that everyone in this world
interprets the Bible the exact same. That's why there are different religions in this world. Besides this blog has NOTHING to do with religion. It's for Amy's friends and family to speak out for her because she CAN'T. We are remembering her for the awesome person that she was. Tyler brutally shot and killed her and left their son without a mother or a father. Don't you see how sad this is for Amy's friends & family? Amy's father lost his only child. Lee lost his entire future and his only child. And poor little Max to have to one day be told what his father did. For Max to never hear his mommmy laugh, see her smile or hear her tell him he loves her. Amy was a beautiful person inside and out. For you Tyler defenders to continue with your BS and show absolutely no respect for her is so disheartening.

And I hope and PRAY that Tyler can admit what he did...for the sake of Amy's friends and family. We want peace and justice. And he will pay for what he did. I believe that.

Tricia said...

Stealing is also one of the Commandments, but I do not put stealing a pack of gum in the same basket as murder. I also would not classify murder with adultry. While all are wrong and definitely sins, I believe acting as God and deciding when one's life is over, trumps ALL. I do not know how God's judgement works, all anyone can do is live their life the best they can and pray for mercy in the end. Only God can truly see whats in one's heart, but a little remorse and compassion could sure help a victim's loved ones. I thought losing Amy (and the way we did) was heartbreaking, but for people, even strangers to continue to berate her is borderline unbearable for those that continue to mourn her. She has seen the eyes of God and has BEEN judged, that much I am certain. No one should have the liberty to do so on earth any longer. Tyler and the rest of us will also be judged by God himself; but until then, we have a judicial system. Murder 1 conviction has alot longer sentence than stealing a pack of gum. Save your sermon for another congregation.

Cami said...

Fortunately, for those of us who are privileged to live in this country, there are laws governing certain acts and types of behavior. Murder is considered a criminal act, which is against the law. Our founding fathers, who, but the way, founded this country based upon Christian principles (hence, in God we trust printed on the currency), had enough sense to realize the vast difference between acts that cause bodily harm to another versus those that are of moral question. Therefore, laws were set up to deal with severe deviant and criminal behavior. Those of us who have normal ethical compasses adhere and abide by these laws. And yes, let me clarify ethical, as I don't want people to confuse ethicality with morality. Ethical is quite different from moral as everyone's morality differs and is subject to one's own governing beliefs; however, these two do overlap on many occasion. Those who choose not to abide by these laws face the consequences of their actions.

How dare you, anonymous, equate murder with adultery! Murder is an illegal criminal act and adultery is not. One cannot be held criminally accountable for adultery. That is as simple as it gets. And regardless of what you THINK you know, you apparently know nothing about Amy or the circumstances surrounding her marriage and the ending thereof. This is an utter tragedy and NOTHING justifies Amy being brutally murdered. It doesn't matter how you Tyler defenders want to spin it.

And what do you have to say about Amy's unborn child? Did her child also deserve what happened? What justifies this in your warped mind? Does Leviticus speak on this? I would LOVE to know.

What would you prefer: Your loved one to be the victim of adultery or the victim or murder? Amy and her unborn child are the TRUE victims here...as is Max. What a tragedy for that innocent little boy to have his mother ripped away from him so unnecessarily!

Once again, my thoughts and prayers are daily with the Meyer family...may justice be served and no mercy shown for the one with no remorse.

Anonymous said...

AMEN CAMI! These warped Tyler defenders are just that - WARPED. They are blind, sheltered and narrow minded individuals. Do you Tyler defenders also attend Life Church in Bluffton where preachers kick people out of their own church??

Please answer this murder defenders- would you rather have your loved one be brutually murdered or commit adultery? And while your at it please answer the questions we have been asking all along. Why did Tyler have a gun on him that morning? Why did he shoot her twice in the chest to kill her? Why did he blow up her cell phone? It seems as though none of you can answer these questions? I wonder why.

Anonymous said...

To "anonymous", I hope you never disobeyed your parents and did the opposite of what they instructed you to do; otherwise, that is a sin equivalent to murder (or so you say). To judge someone for past mistakes and justify their murder is dispicable! I'm so sick of you Bible beaters saying that only God is the judge when all YOU do is act like Amy's judge and jury. How reprehensible that you actually had the nerve to write maybe both of them will get life...one for adultery and one for murder! And you say that you mean no disrespect? That is the most disrepectful thing one can say about a murder victim...and let's not forger Amy's unborn child. How her family must be aching at comments such as yours. You should be ashamed of yourself!

Maybe you should read the New Testament. It was written in a different era than the Old Testament which you keep quoting. Over time, society changes and we must adapt to those changes. What was relevant thousands of years ago may not be relevant today. In the New Testament, Jesus preaches tolerance, love, acceptance, peace, and forgiveness. He was the ultimate peacemaker and champion for the social outcasts. You should take a lesson from him. He forgave the adulteress, showed compassion for the leper, etc...or do you choose not to quote from those versus which do not support your narrow-minded opinion?

Times change...society changes, and we must adapt to these changes or else slavery would still exist, women would not have the right to vote, and all races would not be equal.

For all of you other Bible-beaters and so-called Christians, thankfully, my God is a loving, caring, and compassionate God...who will forgive those who truly seek and desire forgiveness. So sorry that your God seems judgemental and vengeful. I choose to live my life with compassion and grace, accepting all people just as I was taught by my family and church. Obviously, not how you were raised...either at home or in your church. Thank God people such as you no longer run this country!

You can all be forgiven for your disrespectful comments as Tyler can be forgiven; however, that would involve him actually owning up to what he did and feeling remorse. You should be ashamed of yourself for what you have written!

Anonymous said...

I am no judge of anyone. I am simply saying for those that choose to judge, you will too be judged in the same manner. I am not a supporter of Tyler, it seems pretty apparent by the evidence presented that he may have murdered Amy and possibly by his own assertion. I feel terrible for Amy's family and its unfortunate that this blog turned out this way. As a Christian, the best way to handle these situations is by talking to God. There are no other answers, these posts by supporters of both sides are disgraceful.

Anonymous said...

"Maybe you should read the New Testament. It was written in a different era than the Old Testament which you keep quoting. Over time, society changes and we must adapt to those changes. What was relevant thousands of years ago may not be relevant today. In the New Testament, Jesus preaches tolerance, love, acceptance, peace, and forgiveness. He was the ultimate peacemaker and champion for the social outcasts. You should take a lesson from him. He forgave the adulteress, showed compassion for the leper, etc...or do you choose not to quote from those versus which do not support your narrow-minded opinion?"

Maybe everyone here can learn something from the New Testament. You said it yourself, Jesus preaches tolerance, love, acceptance, peace, and forgiveness. He was the ultimate peacemaker and champion for the social outcasts.

Anonymous said...

To the one injecting religion into this discussion - pick up and read the New Testament. If you're exclusively living in the Old, you're missing the essence of Christianity. Just read how Jesus shamed the "religious leaders" of the day for what they believed was THE righteous way of living. Jesus flipped their rules and their exclusive ways of thinking upside down! There were many, many things Jesus did that appalled the religious leaders of the day. Just when you think you have religion all figured out is when sin really takes over! You become overly judgmental, thinking your way is right. In the case of this blog, we are here to support a person whose life was taken. A loving person who didn't always have the best role models growing up, but who never gave up trying to figure out a better path in life. Not everyone makes the right decisions the first time around. Sometimes people yearn for love and look in the wrong places. This obviously happened to Amy when she married Tyler. It's not healthy to go through life being verbally abused and it's certainly not healthy for your child to observe. I'm sorry - but religion doesn't dictate that one stay in a marriage when abuse is occurring. It goes against the heart of Christianity (or as you might want to quote - the GREATEST commandment), which is love for neighbor as yourself. Please stop using the Bible to judge and "punish" Amy. Your judgment is not relevant to her life or to her relationship with God.

Anonymous said...

I am not judging Amy at all. Thats not for me or anyone else on here to do. I am simply saying if you judge either Tyler or Amy, you will also be judged in the same manner. I agree, Jesus did chastise those religious leaders that chose to judge. Be angry, upset, mad, hurt, heartbroken, but judge ye not for you to will be judged in the same manner. Again, I really feel compasion for the Amy Meyer family, but this blog is just disgraceful to both families.

Tricia said...

I find your comments and opinions extremely self-righteous! You continue to advise us not to judge and claim that you are not judging, but state adultery is the same as murder and you know how He sees things. "Maybe they will both get life, one for murder one for adultery"; is this not judging? Suggesting one's life was justly ended because of the sins they committed during their life? I would say that's a judgemental statement, to say the least, and I fail to sense ANY compassion in your comments.

You said yourself we have every right to be angry, upset, etc. Why are we not supposed to be angry at Tyler? Why should we have to explain it to a stranger? How dare you tell us the proper way to grieve, when you obviously have never experienced a life lost at the hand of another. I have developed an entirely new set of emotions since this tragedy. I hope to never experience another of this magnitude, but can say everyone grieves differently and that is their right.

This blog is draining, but I will not stop for Amy's sake. We knew when this happened, they were going to drag Meyer through the mud and try to make her look terrible, but comments still shock me. I came to Wells Co. thinking it would be a good place to raise my children. But I now see that given the opportunity to speak anonymously, people's teeth come out and they are bitterly cruel.

Amy had God in her heart, this we knew, and though I'm sad and will continue to seek justice, I do not worry about her now. I know she is in a wonderful place. She smiles on Max when he sleeps and guides him through each day.

Anonymous said...

I pray for both families everyday. As should you.

Tricia said...

And how do you know I don't? Are you saying I'M not a Christian? Do you stop?! Give me a break. I PRAY for Amy and her loved ones everyday, for God to grant them the strength to make it through each day; to remind them that Amy lives on in our hearts. I also pray for Tyler's family; that one day he will realize what he's done to so many people, including his beautiful son; and that his family/friends accept it so that we all may begin to heal the best that we can. I also pray for Maxy, that as unbearable the trials he will face, he has an astounding amount of people that love him and will help him through it. I also THANK GOD for the opportunity to know Amy, and the blessings he has granted in my life, as are the rest of Amy's friends on here. Don't speak to us as if you know us, that we are bad people. As I posted before, you know nothing of this situation in which you choose to comment.

Anonymous said...

Simmer down... that comment was for everyone. It was not meant to make anyone angry.

Tricia said...

Gee, a little late for that. Because you are not advocating and would rather preach YOUR good word to us, I suggest you find something else to do with your time.

Anonymous said...

It's been so nice to see Amy being honored at St. Francis where she played and coached bball & also at South Adams where she scored over 1,000 points in her career. Maxy will be so proud of his mother one day!
here is the link to the story on WANE.COM

http://www.wane.com/dpp/news/wane-ftwayne-USF-players-honor-slain-assit-coach

We miss you Amy! There's not a day goes by that we don't think of you!

Rhonda said...

I don't even know where to begin this is all just so sad.We have known Amy every scene she was a baby,she was like family to us. We would like to thank Mike & Mary for sharing Amy with us,she was such a special girl we had a lot of fun with her and as so many we loved her very much.She was also like a big sister to our daughters,she helped them with B-ball,problems or just hang out with them.It really saddens us that some people have seem to have lost all common sense and there minds.It DOESN'T matter if you agree with everything Amy did or didn't do it did NOT give Tyler the right to kill her and her unborn child!!! If we was aloud to kill everyone we didn't agree with there wouldn't be nobody left in the world! The one that has paid the biggest price of all and will the rest of his life is Max.He will never again have his mommy there for him,and no matter how hard everyone tries to make up for that you just can't. There is no way of ever replacing a mothers love,warmth,compassion,and just being there.Tyler needs to spend the rest of his life in jail for that alone!!!
We love you Amy and miss you! You will always be in our thoughts and hearts.

Anonymous said...

What a sad and horrible thing to happen. Dan, I would like to say that I believe you had good intentions on making this blog be about a woman who lost her life too early and left it open for people to morn and remember her, at least that is my hope. Unfortunately, here it is February and it is still a hate blog against both parties. I come as a neutral party, so I suppose you will end up throwing some of your hate against me, since I don't know anything. I would just like to say that my prayers are with all involved but mostly Max. This poor boy is still living in a war obviously. This would have been a great collection of beautiful words about his mother that he could remember her by, but instead it turned into a hate blog for his whole family including his mother and his father's sides. God be with you all.

Dan said...

Anon,
The Sevens blog has, I suppose, a couple thousand entries over the last three or four years. Only one entry among those 2000 is about the murder of Amy Meyer White. I try to leave the comments alone, but did have to delete some I thought went way out of bounds.

- Dan

Tricia said...

Anonymous...your entry is both true and unfair at the same time. I believe that this blog was started with wonderful intentions also, but turned sour with the very first post. It is sad and terrible that Max has been dealt this impossible situation.

What I believe is unfair, is how people not involved at all feel some sort of entitlement, this right to cast judgement and shame on Meyer's friends and family on the way in which they choose to grieve and handle all of this. Has anyone in your family, or any of your friends been MURDERED? Would you not be angry? Would you not at the very least of things that you can possibly do, defend their honor on some blog where people have decided to say horrible, untrue things about them? If your answer is no, why do you feel that you need to say something, seeing how you've never tried on these heavy shoes. Well shame on us for fighting for her, someone has to because she can't. Those of you who say you would do different are incredible; kudos to you for being super-human. Please, expel some of your powers on the Meyer family, who awake every morning in a pit of extreme sorrow without Amy and Max.

I am not casting hate on you. I just hope before you decide to publicly comment on something that is really difficult for others, you think about it. God be with you also.

Anonymous said...

I would just like to say, that I didn't know amy, but I know Tyler, and some of the comments on this site are ridiculous! Just because he admitted to it does not make him a cold blooded killer, and you can not say that he is because like it or not he is innocent until proven guilty, and his family is hurting just as well as amy's. His family does not get to see him he sits in jail, and when he is found innocent for self defense are you still going to call him these ridiculous names? Grow up, and just respect both families!

Dan said...

I've deleted a comment and am turning off anonymous comments. I'll also turn on moderation so comments will go through me from now on.

thosewhocare said...

So fitting in remembering Amy, especially this time of year:

"If I Die Young"

If I die young bury me in satin
Lay me down on a bed of roses
Sink me in the river at dawn
Send me away with the words of a love song
oh oh oh oh

Lord make me a rainbow, I’ll shine down on my mother
She'll know I’m safe with you when she stands under my colors, oh and
Life ain't always what you think it ought to be, no
ain't even grey, but she buries her baby

The sharp knife of a short life, well
I’ve had just enough time

If I die young bury me in satin
Lay me down on a bed of roses
Sink me in the river at dawn
Send me away with the words of a love song

The sharp knife of a short life, well
I’ve had just enough time

And I’ll be wearing white when I come into your kingdom
I’m as green as the ring on my little cold finger
I’ve never known the lovin' of a man
But it sure felt nice when he was holding my hand
There’s a boy here in town says he’ll love me forever
Who would have thought forever could be severed by

The sharp knife of a short life, well
I’ve had just enough time

So put on your best boys and I’ll wear my pearls
What I never did is done
Find More lyrics at www.sweetslyrics.com

A penny for my thoughts, oh no I’ll sell them for a dollar
They're worth so much more after I’m a goner
And maybe then you’ll hear the words I been singin’
Funny when you're dead how people start listenin’

If I die young bury me in satin
Lay me down on a bed of roses
Sink me in the river at dawn
Send me away with the words of a love song
oh oh


The ballad of a dove
Go with peace and love
Gather up your tears, keep ‘em in your pocket
Save them for a time when your really gonna need 'em oh

The sharp knife of a short life, well
I’ve had just enough time

So put on your best boys and I’ll wear my pearls